I am so tired of hearing my generation talk about how celebrity couples are goals. Celebrity couples are actually the opposite of "goals."

Let's take Angelina and Brad for example. Everyone was starstruck over them, but why exactly? I admit, they were a cute couple and did an amazing thing by adopting those kids, but other than that... what makes them your "goals?"

First off, they both had been married before. It was Brad's second and Angelina's third, which means odds were against them from the start due to how often second and third marriages will fail. Second, Angelina had adopted and had a kid already. Statistics show that someone who marries someone who has kids are less likely to make it also. Third, they both have careers that keep them away from each other, so odds are against them for a marriage that will work out. This doesn't mean it can't work out, only that odds are against them, so people shouldn't be surprised if it doesn't work.

With that being said, it is time for the my generation, who will one day or who are about to get married, to realize something; You can't look at famous people for you marriage inspirations. All you get to see is the very public appearances which are always set up to look a certain way. They have the most public Facebook, Twitter, Instagram moments than any of us. Just like Facebook, we have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. That loving picture I may have on my Facebook of my family doesn't tell you about the struggles or hardships that go on in our life.

But, what you can do is look to your grandparents, parents, family friends and ask them how they have stayed together for so long. Be inspired by what you see in front of you, not what you see on a TV screen, magazine, or social media. Listen and learn from the people in your life that have made it and even from the ones who haven't and be willing to fight to the ends of the earth to stay married. Which leads me to the last part of my argument...

People are to willing to give up on marriage. It is easy to get married and it is easy to get divorced, so instead of putting in the work or fighting for their marriage, they take the easy way out. Now I know there are some situations that just can't be worked out and divorce is the only option, but there are so many situations that can be "fixed," but it will take each of you to CHOOSE to love that person even when you think you can't.

Love is not just a feeling, it is also an action and a choice. During you worst times, CHOOSE to love each other and communicate. Talk and work through those problems. I promise, when you do, everything is so much more worth it and that great love you thought you had at the beginning becomes even greater, stronger, and deeper. I can tell you that it won't be easy, but fighting through the hard times will definitely be worth it in the end (and I can thank my parents for giving me this view on love).

""Love is not a fight, but it's something worth fighting for." Warren Barfield - Love Is Not a Fight