Instead Of Celebrating Love, Celebrate People In Your Life

Instead of Celebrating Love This Year, Celebrate the People In Your Life

The love you give to them is just important as the people themselves


Too often, love disappears.

And we take advantage of the people around us.

With the ability to choose who you want in your life, celebrate why those close to you are in your life. Embrace them because every person in your life has the ability to affect the person you are and the person you become. No matter if it's a friend, a sibling, or significant other, whoever it is, thank them for being in your life and go beyond the easy answer of why you love them.

Too often we jump to conclusions and take the easy way out.

We don't treasure the people in our lives who are there for us and support us and love us.

But it's not the love that you focus on, it's the people themselves. The people we choose to love have been given our love for a reason. A reason beyond "[insert person] makes me laugh".

With Valentine's Day this week, love is on the brain. But rather than focusing on a love that's existent, take advantage of what makes that love so special. If you ask me, I've never been a fan of Valentine's Day. I think the only time I did enjoy the holiday was in elementary school. But that's not the point. Valentine's Day is a faulty representation of love.

Love isn't found in your significant other bringing you flowers or chocolates. We have to learn that love exists in our day to day lives. And I don't mean to sound negative, but our society doesn't value love. It looks at movies and storybook tales about romance to be these "goals" of the love we aspire to have. Which is incorrect.

Hollywood and the movie industry exaggerates relationships and doesn't show that relationships take work. What I'm trying to say is that it's the people not the relationship itself that we should love. Too often we get caught up in the idea of love and ignore the love itself.

So I don't sound like I'm just shouting into a void, be that friend that asks the other to text you when they get home. Call someone just because you were "thinking about them".

So don't jump to conclusions. Embrace every person that's in your life for the "why's" of how they're there. Celebrate what makes every person you love special and love people beyond simplistic and easy answers. Reach out to those who mean the world because you never know how much they might need it.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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