The Character Flaw Of Caring Too Much
Start writing a post

The Character Flaw Of Caring Too Much

Setting and then honoring boundaries is so important.

The Character Flaw Of Caring Too Much

Sometimes I care too much. This is something that I am trying to work on.

Well, how can one "care too much" you may be wondering? Isn't caring a good thing?

Alas, while caring is a good thing to do, anything that is done in excess usually has negative repercussions. This notion especially holds true in the context of discussing "caring too much." It is important to care; we need people to care about us and we need to care about ourselves in order to create a positive world. However, when we care too much, it usually leads us to create these expectations and judgments when things do not play out the way that we intended.

The act of caring stems first from the act of wanting to care, insinuating love. We would not care about somebody or something if we did not love that person or thing. Clearly, we want the best for them because that is what leads us to care in the first place. We also wrongly assume that our way is the best way; this person will only end up okay if we go above and beyond to show them that we care.

In reality, sometimes what we assume is the best method of helping and showing that we care is actually not what the person on the receiving end needs. And this is alright.

But it does not always feel alright.

It hurts when our best efforts to care go unnoticed. It hurts, even more, when our best efforts to care go unappreciated. It hurts the most when our best efforts to care end up hindering those that we intended to actually help.

We have to accept that sometimes our best efforts do not achieve what we expected them to. Acknowledging that the outcome is not what we intended is important to keep ourselves sane and also to keep a positive relationship with the person on the other end.

I used to always consider caring too much to be a character flaw. Isn't it ironic that when we tried to a good thing and it ended up causing us to feel like we did the opposite?

Now I'm starting to realize that we need people to "care too much." It's a good thing to "care too much." It's better to put our full efforts of love and care into something and have it not be enough than for us to hardly love and care at all and wonder what could have been if we gave it our all. Ultimately, though, it is all about finding a healthy balance. Thus, I encourage us all to continue caring with appropriate boundaries to ensure a content balance.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Olivia White

"The American flag does not fly because the wind moves it. It flies from the last breath of each solider who died protecting it."

Keep Reading... Show less

Separation Anxiety in Pets

Separation anxiety in pets is a real thing and recognizing the warning signs is important.


Since March, Covid-19 required most of the world to quarantine in their homes. Majority of people ended up working from home for nearly five months. This meant pet owners were constantly with their pets giving them attention, playing with them, letting them out etc. Therefore, when the world slowly started to open up again and pet owners began returning to normal life work schedules away from the home, pet owners noticed a difference in the way their pet acted. Many pets develop separation anxiety especially during this crazy time when majority people were stuck inside barely leaving the house.

Keep Reading... Show less
Robert Bye on Unsplash

I live by New York City and I am so excited for all of the summer adventures.

Keep Reading... Show less

The invention of photography

The history of photography is the recount of inventions, scientific discoveries and technical improvements that allowed human beings to capture an image on a photosensitive surface for the first time, using light and certain chemical elements that react with it.


The history of photography is the recount of inventions, scientific discoveries and technical improvements that allowed human beings to capture an image on a photosensitive surface for the first time, using light and certain chemical elements that react with it.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Exposing Kids To Nature Is The Best Way To Get Their Creative Juices Flowing

Constantly introducing young children to the magical works of nature will further increase the willingness to engage in playful activities as well as broaden their interactions with their peers


Whenever you are feeling low and anxious, just simply GO OUTSIDE and embrace nature! According to a new research study published in Frontiers in Psychology, being connected to nature and physically touching animals and flowers enable children to be happier and altruistic in nature. Not only does nature exert a bountiful force on adults, but it also serves as a therapeutic antidote to children, especially during their developmental years.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

5 Simple Ways To Give Yourself Grace, Especially When Life Gets Hard

Grace begins with a simple awareness of who we are and who we are becoming.

Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

If there's one thing I'm absolutely terrible at, it's giving myself grace. I'm easily my own worst critic in almost everything that I do. I'm a raging perfectionist, and I have unrealistic expectations for myself at times. I can remember simple errors I made years ago, and I still hold on to them. The biggest thing I'm trying to work on is giving myself grace. I've realized that when I don't give myself grace, I miss out on being human. Even more so, I've realized that in order to give grace to others, I need to learn how to give grace to myself, too. So often, we let perfection dominate our lives without even realizing it. I've decided to change that in my own life, and I hope you'll consider doing that, too. Grace begins with a simple awareness of who we are and who we're becoming. As you read through these five affirmations and ways to give yourself grace, I hope you'll take them in. Read them. Write them down. Think about them. Most of all, I hope you'll use them to encourage yourself and realize that you are never alone and you always have the power to change your story.

Keep Reading... Show less

Breaking Down The Beginning, Middle, And End of Netflix's Newest 'To All The Boys' Movie

Noah Centineo and Lana Condor are back with the third and final installment of the "To All The Boys I've Loved Before" series


Were all teenagers and twenty-somethings bingeing the latest "To All The Boys: Always and Forever" last night with all of their friends on their basement TV? Nope? Just me? Oh, how I doubt that.

I have been excited for this movie ever since I saw the NYC skyline in the trailer that was released earlier this year. I'm a sucker for any movie or TV show that takes place in the Big Apple.

Keep Reading... Show less

4 Ways To Own Your Story, Because Every Bit Of It Is Worth Celebrating

I hope that you don't let your current chapter stop you from pursuing the rest of your story.

Photo by Manny Moreno on Unsplash

Every single one of us has a story.

I don't say that to be cliché. I don't say that to give you a false sense of encouragement. I say that to be honest. I say that to be real.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments