I Cared Too Much Back In High School

I Cared Too Much Back In High School

To anyone in high school—or really, anyone this may apply too: it sounds cliche, but just be yourself, be friendly, and don't worry so much about what others are thinking.

While some people rave of the unforgettable memories they made back in high school, others are more than happy to have escaped those four dreaded years. I would like to think I fall somewhere in between these two types of people. I enjoyed many of my experiences ninth through twelfth grade, and I am thankful for the friends I made, but some days I could not stand to be in school. Looking back, I think I can attribute some of the negative aspects of my high school experience to caring way too much about things that truly never mattered.

I wish I would have been more outgoing and not worried so much about others' perceptions of me. I know this is definitely easier said than done, but in retrospect it would have made for a happier, more carefree experience.

Sophomore and junior year, I remember spending hours in front of the mirror scrutinizing every possible outfit choice I could wear to school the next day. I would try the same clothing on nine times in one week like it was going to look any different on Thursday, than it would have looked on a Monday. It was such a waste of my time and it would've been a lot smarter to just wake up, pick a random outfit and go. I am sure no one was paying half as much attention to my outfit as I was anyways. Now, I’ll look through my closet for thirty seconds, grab whatever I feel like wearing that day, and not think twice about it.

Another stressor back in high school was the cafeteria; I found lunchtime more overwhelming than it ever should have been. Don't get me wrong, I loved the free hour to relax and catch up with my friends, but I remember getting tense as I walked past certain classmates on the way to my table. I disliked venturing from my seat to the bathroom, or to the lunch line because it felt like people were watching me, even when they really weren't. Now when I am at the dining hall at West Chester, I don't have any of these same feelings whatsoever. It is weird to think I was ever bothered by such things.

At football games, I certainly did not have as much fun as I could have. I was not a fan of being around hundreds of other classmates in such a loud and crammed setting. Everyone else always had a blast and I wish I could say the same. I was friendly with many people in high school, but I did not have that big of a friend group so I found it nervewracking being surrounded by so many other large groups of people. It would have made for a much better time if I just tried to branch out and converse with new people that surrounded me at the time.

Similarly, is that outside of school, I would occasionally become anxious in a public setting if I saw people I had recognized from school, but didn't really know too well. I have always been super outgoing around my friends and family, but something about being around new groups of people never came easy to me. Now, I will always acknowledge a familiar group whether I know them well or not. I love seeing different faces out and about and it's always great to smile, wave and say hello.

While I can still be somewhat of an introvert at times, I am glad I have matured since high school and come to realize that it is not worth it to stress so much over what others think of you, and there is no need to be so nervous in front of unfamiliar crowds. At the end of the day, we are all just people!

To anyone in high school—or really, anyone this may apply too: it sounds cliche, but just be yourself, be friendly and don't worry so much about what others are thinking. Chances are they are paying less attention to you than you think.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!


It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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