Can Creating An Alter Ego Empower You?

Can Creating An Alter Ego Empower You?

Taking a practical lesson from Beyonce and Clark Kent.

For those who aren't sure, the definition of an alter ego is a "second self," or a version of a person that is completely distinct from their normal persona.

In the past, various well-known celebrities have taken on alter egos, either to make themselves more marketable or appealing, or to become more confident. Most famous are artists like Beyoncé and Lady Gaga. At one time, Beyoncé had an alter ego named Sasha Fierce, who she said made her able to be more comfortable and sexy during performances. On the other hand, Lady Gaga is an alter ego of Stefani Germanotta, the "ordinary" woman behind the huge sensation that Lady Gaga has become.

Additionally, many beloved superheroes (think Clark Kent, Bruce Wayne, Peter Parker) have two separate identities that they maintain to separate themselves from the fame and questioning they'd face if they were "heroes" all the time. In the superhero films and comics, these are often referred to as "secret identities" (aka the person behind the hero). Superman is slightly unique from the others in that his alter ego is the average man, Clark Kent. Most others, like Peter Parker, are normal at first and then later create their heroic alter ego.

But can average people use an alter ego to make themselves more outgoing, confident or successful? According to many people, the answer is yes.

Many people are afraid of the word "ego." It often comes with a connotation of pushiness and aggression, making people hesitant to consider anything related to it. However, in it's truest form, "ego" simply means "the 'I' or self of any person." And in many cases, people who tend to be more passive or introverted find that creating an altered persona can make them feel willing to fight for what they want in their careers or personal lives.

According to some, the key to creating an alter ego is a slow evolution. The process won't happen seamlessly overnight, and in fact, it may take quite a while to develop a "second self."

It is important to know what qualities you want your alter ego to take on. Whether you want to be more outspoken, more confident or more unique, the first step is always to realize your specific goals in creating this persona. What do you want to get out of it?

Naming your alter ego or deciding his/her mannerisms can be helpful steps to make your "other you" a more concrete and reachable ideal. It may also help to create some details about this ego to make it more realistic to you. Though people don't have to know that you have an alter ego, the more true to life yours can be, the more easy you may find it to inhabit this confident, fascinating character.

For the most realistic of uses, an alter ego is merely a tool to enhance the features of yourself that you wish were more present, or to help you strengthen relationships or become more professionally successful. I truly believe that every person has it within them to be the version of themselves they want to be and that it is possible to take on characteristics you value simply through diligent focus. However, an alter ego may be the easiest or most fun method of shifting your mindset and creating a life you love.

So if you're looking to create a positive change in your life and are interested in creating a Sasha Fierce or Batman of your own, check out this fun, illustrated guide. For a more psychological perspective on altering your ego, this is a fascinating article.

And ask yourself this ... why shouldn't you be your own inspiration?

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18 Un-Resolutions for 2018

Things to actually STOP doing in 2018 instead of those phony resolutions

The new year has now come upon us again and everyone comes up with ridiculous and most likely impossible resolutions to ring in the new year. "New Year, New Me" is often a popular phrase amongst the people. Instead of coming up with resolutions no one can actually keep, I came up with things to stop doing to help you become a better you, however way you do it.

1. Stop judging people

The less you judge people the more you'll notice how others don't really judge you.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

In the physical, mental and emotional sense, you're you and that means that you shouldn't be caring about what others are doing. If it takes you more time to finish a project or reach a goal, then that's fine. No matter if it's for school or in real life situations, try to be you and not someone else

3. Stop thinking only about yourself

At some point or another you kind of need to wake up and realize that not everything is about you, not everyone's looking at you, and not to be mean but, you're not that special. Be a little more selfless and maybe do some random acts of kindness, even something as simple and cliche as holding a door open for someone

4. Stop trying to butt into people's business

If you're like me, it's very hard to not want to know everything about everyone. I've learned that most people don't like people that are nosey. Keep to yourself and keep your mouth shut even if you do happen to hear someone's conversation.

5. Stop letting people take advantage of you

If you're not happy about something, speak up and don't let things you don't want come your way. If you're in an uncomfortable situation, don't overthink and try to get out of it.

6. Stop complaining about things that are easily fixable

If you complain that you're broke but all you do is spend your paycheck on things, maybe it'll help if you saved a little bit of it this way you can make use for it for an emergency; or make a savings fund with a percentage of your paycheck and then use the rest. Another example is complaining that you never have plans. Maybe it'll help to contact some of your friends to make plans. If none are available, hang with your parents. Believe it or not, they're cool.

7. Stop putting things off

Procrastination is definitely one of my weaknesses and during 2018, I'm going to start things sooner than the last minute. If you have to do something uncomfortable or even if you don't like talking on the phone to the Chinese food guy, rip off the band-aid and do it.

8. Stop spending so much money on unnecessary things

Do you really need to order take-out for the 3rd night in a row? Maybe buy a cookbook or look up a recipe online and impress your significant other- or if you're single make it for a friend or your mom- or yourself if you don't have anyone to cook for: Impress yourself.

9. (But also) Stop feeling guilty about treating yourself

Treating yourself doesn't always mean breaking open the piggy bank and spending all your money. Try looking for deals. There's a huge chance that you can find a coupon or deal somewhere (cough cough Nordstrom Rack is great for that).

10. Stop using texting as the only form of contact between you and someone you love.

It's 2018 and if you seriously think that texting is how to keep any relationship alive, then you have to check yourself. Start calling people, or better- facetime them. You get to see their reactions to things instead of typing "I'm dead" with a little huff out of your nose when they say something funny.

11. Stop holding back your feelings

If it's one thing I've learned from past experiences, it's so much better and healthier to let out your feelings even if it may be hard. I don't just mean if you have feelings for a special girl or boy, I mean that if you aren't the vulnerable type, try letting go, or if you're shy, speak up.

12. Stop using your phone as a buffer for social situations.

If you're ever stuck in a silent situation and you see yourself and the others present reaching for your phone's, try saying something that makes everyone feel bad about being on their phones such as something sarcastic like "we're all being extremely rude" or "why are we even hanging out if we're all on our phones?"

13. Stop obsessing over your physical flaws.

There's a huge chance that you're the only one that notices it so if you do want to fix it, it's better to try to do it for yourself than for other people.

14. Stop being ungrateful

Stop, look around, and realize that you're here. I know it's cliche but just think of everything you have and everyone you have in your life. Think about how life would be if you didn't have that someone or something.

15. Stop listening to the same music

I know you love that song even though you have listened to it so many times you know how to replicate the guitar riffs with your mouth- sounds exactly, but there's other music out there- maybe even better music. Spotify and Apple Music are just two ways to discover new music you may not even know existed- even though they do cost a couple of bucks (or more) a month.

16. Stop avoiding family time

Yet another cliche, family time should be cherished and you should realize that no matter how long you've known a friend, you'll never know anyone longer than your family. They have no choice but to love you and you, them. The next time you're with your family and you're making fun of something your dad said or how smelly your brother's fart is, remember that this is the only family you've got and you can't replace them contrary to what you might have said when you were 7.

17. Stop abusing your body

Whatever you may be doing to it; not getting enough sleep, not getting enough exercise, not eating right, drinking too much alcohol. Whatever it is, ask yourself if it's really benefitting your body or your self- worth.

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2018 Is About Making It Happen

With a new year comes new opportunities for finding yourself

As we reach about two weeks into the new year, we see new year’s resolutions in full swing or completely forgotten about. Whichever it may be, there is so much time ahead. It seems as though our technology infatuated generation only puts forth resolutions to share it on social media with captions along the lines of “new year, new me”. Instead of only focusing on this at the beginning of the year, carry this passion throughout the year. Let your goals be about more than social media and more about bettering yourself. Striving to be the best version of yourself should not end just a few weeks in, but is something that we should all work towards each and every day.

In the past, I have made resolutions similar to everyone else. Whether it is watching less television, reading more often, eating healthier, or working out more, they all tended to end by the first month or so. The resolutions always sounded great at the time they were made, but when they are not kept, they left me feeling empty and unsure.

I want this year to be different. Rather than making the same resolutions as I had for the past decade, I wanted to focus this year on a change I wished to see in my life. I encourage you all to do the same. One easy way to do so is by choosing a word or phrase which embodies your new year. It should resemble your hopes for the future. It does not need to be complicated. The options are endless.

This year, I wish to be adventurous. I want to live each day to the fullest and seize every moment I am given. When you hear the word “adventurous”, actions such as skydiving, rock climbing, parasailing, scuba diving, river rafting and others may come to mind. Although I would love to try all of these out, I mean adventurous in a different way. I want to challenge myself to be adventurous in the sense of trying something new every day and not letting fear ever stand in my way.

From taking a day trip to a new place to trying out new recipes in the kitchen, a new year is all about new chances. It is about setting goals and learning new skills. Life is simply too short to overthink things. Start small with adventures such as meeting someone new and work your way up to something like traveling to a new country.

In the end, 2018 is just twelve short months and how you chose to spend it is up to you. The month of January is often referred to as the slowest month of the year for many reasons. The holidays are over, school is back in session, and you regret spending your break watching multiple television series rather than being out in the community. I encourage everyone to spend this slower month thinking of ways to make this year the best one yet. 2018 is about being the best version of yourself through actions rather than tired resolutions.

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