If Someone You Care About Is Hurting You, Call Them Out

If Someone You Care About Is Hurting You, Call Them Out

Your happiness is worth losing a friend or two.

We've all been there; someone we care about does something that hurts our feelings. It's a hard situation, especially if you don't know whether or not it was done purposefully to hurt you.

We live in a world where communication is a foreign concept to many, making these situations extremely common. When this happens, you're left wondering what your role was in the situation. What prompted this person to do such a thing?

You'll sit there wondering what you could have possibly done to cause this to happen. But here's the thing, it's rarely ever your fault. Unless you know for a fact that you did something to prompt their hurtful actions or words, odds are their decision was made completely on their own.

Not only does this world lack communication, but it also lacks empathy for others. People do things for their own benefit, neglecting to think how their actions may affect others, especially those closest to them. It's ridiculous when these "slip-ups" in thought range from forgetting to text back to sleeping with someone's significant other.

I've realized, after many years of dealing with thoughtless people, that calling someone out on their bullshit is the right way to handle these situations. Why would you allow someone to think they can get away with treating you like garbage?

At first, it can be daunting. It's hard to stand up for yourself, especially when your friend's motives are unknown. I'll admit, it's easier when you know for a fact you've been played for a fool. I'm not saying it is a good idea to go after someone with claws drawn because it's not.

If you're going to call someone out, be as polite as you can without being a pushover. Being polite will give you a certain edge. Think about it as the perpetrator in this situation; the person you thought you could screw over was called out and still remained super calm about it... I'd be terrified.

After you've called them out, their reactions may vary. They may realize you're not a force to be reckoned with, and they may never betray you again, or, the more likely reaction, they completely freak out, knowing they're in the wrong, and ignore you from then on.

Calling someone out definitely means risking losing them, and as scary as that may seem, I think it's worth it. After someone has hurt you, why would you want them back into your life? I know I wouldn't want to be associated with someone who ignores my feelings.

So do it; call them out. Your happiness is worth losing a friend or two.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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