Young Adults Aren't Lazy, They Actually Suffer From Being Burnt Out

Young Adults Aren't Lazy, They Actually Suffer From Being Burnt Out

I promise this isn't an excuse for "laziness"

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If you're like me, or like any other student that attends a competitive and rigorous university, you know leisure time doesn't exist. I just finished my first year of college and am interning two places, and have two other part-time jobs for the summer. I average about 50-60 hours of work a week, this excludes the extra functions I am obligated to attend for my internships such as fundraisers and rallies. I also manage to workout four to five times a week and maintain a pretty active social life. So how do I balance all these components of my life? I don't.

Well at least not effectively. Did anyone notice I don't mention sleeping or participating in leisure activities because I don't. My existence is wrapped around my future career and any time left I focus on other aspects like friendships/relationships or trying to get ahead, by the time I have free time to do anything I just want to collapse and sleep for hours on end, knowing my alarm is gonna go off in five hours. Do I think I suffer from being burnt out? Yes. But what exactly is burnout? Burnout is when a person is mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted due to excessive and long running stress, which can ultimately lead to hopelessness, feeling nothing you achieve matters and can physically deteriorate one's body. People tend to find simple chores or tasks unimaginably hard, such as going to the post office or grocery shopping because they are just so exhausted from their more important responsibilities. Many older generations find this to be laziness, but in actuality, it is the opposite. This generation is so hellbent on being successful we overwork, overbook, and over criticize ourselves to the point where we can't properly function.

Is there a solution?

Honestly, I think we as Gen Z'ers and millennials are products of our environment, and society needs to change in order for us to change our habits. From comparing ourselves on social media to pushing ourselves academically we never truly get a break from trying to be the "best" version of ourselves. Personally, I am going to take a break from social media that I feel is only toxic to my life. I deleted my finsta, which just became a place to rant, deleted most of my twitter content because it depicted me as someone I'm not, and I am ending snap streaks because they are actually the dumbest thing I've ever encountered. Everyone is different but I challenge you to find out what is weighing you down in ways you never realized and may be contributing to your burnout.

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Working With People Who Are Dying Teaches You So Much About How To Live

Spending time with hospice patients taught me about the art of dying.

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Death is a difficult subject.

It is addressed differently across cultures, lifestyles, and religions, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say when in the company of someone who is dying. I have spent a lot of time working with hospice patients, and I bore witness to the varying degrees of memory loss and cognitive decline that accompany aging and disease.

The patients I worked with had diverse stories and interests, and although we might have had some trouble understanding each other, we found ways to communicate that transcended any typical conversation.

I especially learned a lot from patients severely affected by dementia.

They spoke in riddles, but their emotions were clearly communicated through their facial expressions and general demeanor, which told a story all on their own.

We would connect through smiles and short phrases, yes or no questions, but more often than not, their minds were in another place. Some patients would repeat the details of the same event, over and over, with varying levels of detail each time.

Others would revert to a child-like state, wondering about their parents, about school, and about family and friends they hadn't seen in a long time.

I often wondered why their minds chose to wander to a certain event or time period and leave them stranded there before the end of their life. Was an emotionally salient event reinforcing itself in their memories?

Was their subconscious trying to reconnect with people from their past? All I could do was agree and follow their lead because the last thing I wanted to do was break their pleasant memory.

I felt honored to be able to spend time with them, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was intruding on their final moments, moments that might be better spent with family and loved ones. I didn't know them in their life, so I wondered how they benefited from my presence in their death.

However, after learning that several of the patients I visited didn't have anyone to come to see them, I began to cherish every moment spent, whether it was in laughter or in tears. Several of the patients never remembered me. Each week, I was a new person, and each week they had a different variation of the same story that they needed to tell me.

In a way, it might have made it easier to start fresh every week rather than to grow attached to a person they would soon leave.

Usually, the stories were light-hearted.

They were reliving a memory or experiencing life again as if it were the first time, but as the end draws nearer, a drastic shift in mood and demeanor is evident.

A patient who was once friendly and jolly can quickly become quiet, reflective, and despondent. I've seen patients break down and cry, not because of their current situation, but because they were mourning old ones. These times taught me a lot about how to be just what that person needs towards the end of their life.

I didn't need to understand why they were upset or what they wanted to say.

The somber tone and tired eyes let me know that what they had to say was important and worth hearing. What mattered most is that someone who cared was there to hear it.

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8 Reasons Why California Is “The Place To Be”

Many people ask me why I left such an amazing place, and I still don't have an answer.

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I've vacationed in California all my life. I've traveled up the coast and through the deserts and mountains of the Golden State. I've lived there for five years and attended college at a UC (University of California). I am convinced that California is "the place to be", and here's why:

1. The coastline is absolutely breathtaking.

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The turquoise water crashing into the intricately chiseled cliffs is nature at its finest. Hop on Pacific Coast Highway to drive along 840 miles of pure beauty.

2. The weather.

You don't even have to check the forecast in California to know that it is sunny and seventy degrees.

3. Hollywood.

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Being in Hollywood is like being in a movie - spot celebrities roaming the area, gaze upon the amazing mansions that fill the hills, and tour iconic movie sets and studios.

4. The gourmet Mexican food.

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Whether you are dining in at a classy restaurant on the water, getting take out Mexican from a little shack in the desert, or grabbing a taco from a food truck on the beach, you can't go wrong with the Mexican food.

5. The various universities all across the state.

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Whether you want to study in a beach town, the desert, or the redwood forest, there is a home for you. The state holds 264 colleges and universities for students to choose from.

6. The endless amount of public trails and parks.

California welcomes people to explore the great outdoors - whether you are roaming through the Redwood Forest, hiking to the Hollywood Sign, walking the trails at Big Bear Mountain, or running the trail to the Golden Gate Bridge, there is always another sight to see in California.

7. The various types of terrain.

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Only in California can you surf in the morning and skii in the afternoon. The desert, the forest, the beach, the mountains, and more - all exist in California.

8. Home to “The Happiest Place on Earth”.

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There is never a dull moment hanging with Mickey Mouse at Disneyland or hopping from ride to ride at California Adventure.

Many people ask me why I left such an amazing place, and I still don't have an answer. California is the place to be.

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