I was raised to wholeheartedly be happy for other people’s success, no matter how I felt about myself. I was taught to put my feelings aside and rejoice in that person’s success. Throughout my life, I have come across people that had no clue about how to be happy for someone else. Maybe it was the way they were raised, or maybe along the way their heart grew with bitterness. It is a reoccurring problem that I deal with, and see others deal with daily. Listen up, if your grass isn’t green, water it! I never could understand someone putting another person down. If that person is happy about something they accomplished, so what! Who makes the decision that you get to make someone else feel small? I could understand that maybe you are in a rough patch in your life, so the little green monster tends to come out. Being negative toward another person will not make your situation easier.
All you see is the success, not the many nights that that successful person cried themselves to sleep, or just felt exhausted. I guarantee you during those hard nights, they were so broken they did not think they could try anymore. So when they reach their goal or point of success, don’t think it is them bragging. That individual felt they put their all into getting to where they are, so they are proud of themselves. They are not trying to be selfish or trying to secretly tear you down. Please do not be that person who puts other people success down, no matter how minuscule it seems to you. Even if it is something as small as an elderly person saying they peeled a banana by themselves. Although it may seem insignificant to you, that does not mean it is to them. Maybe it took all the strength they have to peel that banana, so praise their achievements. I’m not saying get on your hands & knees, but a little compliment, or “good job” goes a long way.
There must be a reason for you to feel that strongly, so figure out why. If you feel as though the grass is greener on the other side, get off your behind, grab that watering can, and get started! Figuratively speaking of course, but why not change the way you see life for the better? It is never too late to pick yourself up because your mood can change a lot. Maybe if you feel comfortable with that person who is doing good in life why not ask them for help? We should raise each other up, not tear each other down for the sport of it. If you have someone like this in your life, just know it has nothing to do with you; it’s their own insecurities talking.
On the other hand, if you are the successful person tearing someone down, are you really any better? Sorry, but no. Being in the spotlight and having good things come into your life can be thrilling, trust me I know. You could be the most successful person in the world, but It is all about where your heart is. If your success comes from tearing people down, it isn’t really a success. While you are making that person feel bad about their lack of success, they are probably already beating themselves up. You never know how someone is treating themselves behind closed doors. Think back to the time when someone tried to make you feel bad about your attempts at success. Also, never forget where you started from, or who stood by your side through your struggle. Success is nothing, but lonely if you do not have people who love and believe in you around. No matter how much you pretend to be a good person, your true colors will always show. So why not be a good person deep down? Your success will feel much better if you can actually say you got their all on your own.
No matter which role you play in this situation, the common goal is to just build each other up. Maybe there is someone you can help, and it could really help that person. Once you start building the people around you up, and vice versa you will feel completely different. The world would be a much better place if we all understood this. So go out into the world and encourage yourself & others to accomplish goals!
