People have sex. Whether it’s with the other gender or the same gender, its sex; a fun activity for all to enjoy. So why do we treat sexuality itself differently when it comes to gender? It’s a double standard as old as time itself: Men are celebrated for their sexual conquests, but women are berated and branded with a scarlet “A” (in a metaphorical sense, of course).

Slut-shaming is labeling a woman as such for her sexual activities. I say woman because it’s typically women that are criticized for how they choose to express their sexuality. Whether it’s a female musician gyrating her pelvis on stage or simply the act of wearing a crop top in public, women’s sexuality and bodies are criticized and open for policing. God forbid she actually be in control of her body and the way she presents herself.

What’s important to remember is that both men and women are sexual beings. Sexual beings who both deserve to have the way that they express it be accepted so long as they’re respecting themselves and their partners. Think of it this way: Would you want someone to judge you based on what you do with your sexual partner or partners in the privacy of your bedroom? No? Didn’t think so. So with that, go forth and stay sexy.