Summer is coming, and so are the weddings. I know so many people who are engaged and getting married this summer! And I even get to be a bridesmaid in a couple of weddings. I'm so excited! It's always wonderful getting to participate in this important life event for someone you know. Wedding planning can be stressful, however, so I thought I'd give you some advice in case you become a bridesmaid. I guess you could also keep these in mind if you're the bride, but this is specifically meant for the bridesmaids and their duties.
So, without further ado, here are three important things for my fellow bridesmaids out there:
Keep in touch with the bride.
This may seem like a pretty simple concept, but it is massively important for the bridesmaids to check in the with the bride. Let her know if you have questions, send her pics for dress ideas, see if she needs any help with the planning, etc. You are there to help the bride with whatever she needs, and she needs you to keep her updated on anything that may be going well or going wrong. If you ignore her messages or don't let her know what's going on, it'll only stress her out even more (and trust me, brides have enough to stress about).
It is not your wedding!
If you don't like the colors the bride is choosing or the dress she picked or the venue, keep that to yourself! If she asks for your opinion, give it honestly, but she should not and is not going to cater to your tastes. Her wedding is not about you or what you like or what you think it should be. Be supportive of her wishes and her dream. And don't get so caught up in what you would do if it were your wedding. It isn't your wedding! Look at any wedding reality TV show, and you'll see plenty of examples of bridesmaids mistaking themselves for the bride. Don't do that!
Enjoy every minute of it.
You may get stressed during this process. Between ordering dresses, attending fittings, and helping the bride with whatever she needs, you will probably get stressed out at times. You'll want everything to be perfect for your friend, but some things may still go wrong. Through all of the stress and the chaos, be happy! Weddings are a celebration. Families and friends come together to celebrate a couple, and everyone hopes for the best future possible for them. You won't get moments like these back again. You'll look back and remember how you were there on the happiest day of your friend's life. Enjoy it while you can!
Like I said, weddings can be stressful, but they can also be amazing. Be happy for your friend and enjoy the experience.
Good luck!
