It's no secret that if there is one thing I hate most in this world, it's a breakup. Whether it's me, my sisters, my friends, or a complete stranger, no one likes the emotional turmoil (even if the extent of which involves chocolate ice cream and The Script on repeat) that is inevitable after someone ends it. Let me clarify: this goes for whether you're the one breaking up with someone, or if you're the one being broken up with.

Hurt feelings aside, there is one thing everyone needs to understand about breakups: they happen. When we are trying to find that ONE (just go with me here) out of billions, do we really expect to find it the first time we try? I mean, in your heart, really?! Some people do and that's great for them, but we can't beat ourselves up for not having the same path as someone else. Just because theirs was different doesn't mean ours is wrong. But when you don't find your forever love in your first relationship, what has to happen?

Breakups don't have to mean something is wrong with someone; it just means you weren't right for each other right now. Trust me, if even one person in the relationship is having doubts, then run, because there will be a better fish in the sea for you, personally. Someone who doesn't get mad when you get glitter in their car and someone who will help you order the NFL Sunday Ticket because they know how happy it makes you (yes, this article is for you too, guys)!

Every breakup is actually getting you closer to where you need to be. Yes, it hurts and YES, it's hard (again, from either side) but it is necessary if we ever want to achieve the ultimate goal of finding our "one." It doesn't mean anything is wrong with YOU! It just means something was wrong about the nature of the relationship, and if one person thought it wouldn't last, then it probably wouldn't and you deserve better. When someone breaks up with you, they are doing you a favor.

The bottom line is we learn so much from everyone we're with: we learn about relationships, we gain new experiences, and, most importantly, we learn a lot about ourselves. This will only help us in the future. So don't beat yourself up every time grandma asks where your last boyfriend is at your next family gathering. Feel power in knowing that one day she will see you with someone who knows you better than you know yourself and it will all be worth it - whether that takes 5 days, 5 weeks or 5 years.

I'm no relationship expert, but I do have some experience. And I care too much to see people so miserable over something so possibly wonderful. When one door closes, another door opens and I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. So please, do your grieving, spend some time being sad, and drive to Texas to get that Blue Bell if that's what you think will make you feel better. Then stand back up, tall and proud, feeling confident that you are who you are and where you're supposed to be at this exact moment.

As an added bonus, I have spent many years perfecting this breakup playlist, so break out the drinks and share it with someone who needs it.

*For best results, play in this order.

1. "A Little Bit Stronger" by Sara Evans
2. "Someone Like You" by Adele
3. "By the Grace of God" by Katy Perry
4. "Unanswered Prayers" by Garth Brooks
5. "Letter to Me" by Brad Paisley
6. "Little Wonders" by Rob Thomas
7. "Better in Time" by Leona Lewis
8. " Dog Days Are Over" by Florence + the Machine
9. "Don't You Worry Child" by Swedish House Mafia
10. "Haven't Met You Yet" by Michael Buble
11. "Mr. Blue Sky" by Electric Light Orchestra
12. "Fighter" by Christina Aguilera
13. "Stronger" by Kelly Clarkson
14. "So What" by Pink
15. "Survivor" by Destiny's Child
16. "Single Ladies" by Beyonce
17. "Love Myself" by Hailee Steinfeld
18. "One Less Problem" by Ariana Grande
19. "99 Problems" by Jay Z
20. "Gives You Hell" by The All American Rejects
21. "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift (It would be wrong to not have ONE by her)
22. "Stronger" by Kanye West
23. "Forget You" by Cee Lo Green
24. "Ridin Solo" by Jason Derulo