No, My Boyfriend Doesn't Give Me Social Media PDA. Yes, He Still Loves Me

No, My Boyfriend Doesn't Give Me Social Media PDA. Yes, He Still Loves Me

There is so much more to love and happiness than a sappy Instagram quote under your WCW photo.
Payge Ehrp
Payge Ehrp Aug 2, 2017
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'Relationship goals'

'Sliding into the DMs'

'Like for Like'

All perfect examples of recent social media trends that really capture the love lives of 2017's societal standards. Don't get me wrong - I'm enjoying all of the photos of the boyfriends surprising their significant other with chocolates and ice cream during a bad day, and I am definitely melting to the sweet captions and messages couples are posting to show off their - idealistic, one of a kind, forever- love. All I'm saying is, you absolutely do not need that in a relationship to be happy.

It seems as if society has set standards within love, social media, and relationships, that have influenced the need to 'show off your man' by posting a long, sappy, territorial caption to prove the love you have for him.

Of course, if your girlfriend is not updating her followers about how they feel about you, she definitely doesn't love you anymore, and if your boyfriend didn't make you his woman crush Wednesday for the third time this month, he most likely thinks you're insanely ugly.

Now, quick question: are we obsessively posting about our significant others because we care about sharing a sincere moment of happiness with our partner, or is it because of the inner validation we get from the likes?

Cherishing a memory, sharing a memory, remembering a memory - all perfect instances of valuing significant happiness, but the likes and comments can often be so validating that when we're struggling, that's where we can get our up from.

I guess, what I'm really trying to get at within this article, is that happy couples who truly value their significant other, do not seek validation for their relationship from other people on social media.

If it makes you happy to post, or be posted about, then you should do that - although it's essential to remember there is much more to a relationship and happiness than social media.

Be confident in your relationship, love with every inch of your body, and show your respect to him/her in whatever way you please - at the end of the day, it's just you two.

Cover Image Credit: The Big Green
Payge Ehrp
Payge Ehrp Aug 2, 2017
At University of Nebraska-Lincoln

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Sorry Arianators, but what the heck is this?

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I started listening to Ariana Grande's new album "Thank You, Next" the morning after it came out. Although I've been leery of her in the past, I do have to admit that she put out some major bops. One song's title REALLY concerned me, though. After listening to the song "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored," I was even more disgusted.

Why is Grande pushing for the further destruction of today's dating scene?

Grande is basically singing about a guy she has a thing for and saying that he can "hit it" (ew, talk about classless) if he breaks up with his girlfriend. She even admits that it isn't right but she doesn't care. All because she's bored. Excuse me, WHAT?

This song just perpetuates everything that is wrong with dating and relationships in society today. People treat relationships like something they need to get out of the way instead of something to respect. Since when did a relationship become meaningless? If someone is in one, they are off limits regardless of your feelings. Period.

I can't tell you how many times I have heard conversations among both guys and girls talking about someone they like, mentioning they are in a relationship, then basically proceeding to do what they want anyway. That is the reason relationships today are 1. rare and 2. not working out like they used to. Sorry, but it's pathetic. You have no right to complain that you aren't in a relationship if that is the way you act toward other people's relationships.

People don't have boundaries these days. In my head, I always thought that if someone had a significant other, regardless of my feelings, that was endgame. I guess Ariana has different feelings? She needs to not perpetuate the BS attitude that millions of teenagers and adults already showcase. It only makes her look bad and makes others think that it is a common and appropriate mindset. Newsflash: It's not.

More like "break up with your girlfriend because I'm a whore." If that's the kind of attitude you have, stay away from me and my boyfriend because you're just a homewrecker. Sorry, not sorry.

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Ladies, It's Good To Be Honest With The Boy You Like, Please Share Your Feelings

No matter how scared you are.

katydulany
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As girls, we're often told that we need to be chased, and we need to be pursued and that the guy needs to make the first move. And even if we do want to tell someone how we feel, it's terrifying to take that first step because you don't know how they're going to respond. Maybe you'll scare them off, maybe you'll lose their friendship, or everything will be awkward for a year and a century.

Well, it's true — it is terrifying.

But I'm here to tell you that it's OK to be honest, it's OK to be share how you're feeling, it's OK to be bold. Even though it's terrifying.

I recently had the experience of sharing with a boy that I liked him, and let me tell you I was nervous. I literally couldn't sleep and my hands were shaking and my heart was pounding. I honestly thought I was going to combust. I had no idea how he was going to react, but I knew in my heart (and from the Lord) that I needed to share how I felt. I'm a big fan of honesty. I hate games of trying to figure out how somebody feels and what this or that text means.

So, I took the step and I told him how I felt.

I told him that I sometimes thought of him as more than a friend and that I valued his friendship and just wanted to be honest. I told him that I wasn't expecting anything in return and wasn't trying to overwhelm him. I told him that whatever his response was I could handle it and hoped we both were mature enough to move forward as friends. Yes, I was scared out of my mind... but it went well.

We're still only friends. But I have no regrets.

Because not only does he know how I feel, but I know how he feels. I don't have to constantly stress over what this or that means. And luckily for me, he was a guy who could handle the truth and talk about his feelings.

Ladies, I know it's scary to be so vulnerable and risk getting hurt. But don't be afraid to open your heart. God will open and close the doors and lead you to the right place. All you can do is be yourself and be honest with yourself and the people around you. Maybe it doesn't go well, maybe it all blows up and you're disappointed. Well, then it's time for that door to close. Who wants to be with someone who can't handle an awkward conversation every now and then?

Be honest with the people you care about. Open your heart and take a chance. And give the rest to the Lord.

katydulany
katydulany Feb 18, 2019
At Baylor University

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