Nowadays, everyone tries to tell you that you’re missing out on an essential part of college and life if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend in college. What exactly is that essential part? I am in a relationship in college and I can definitely say I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. I don’t need hook ups and one night stands with strangers to grow up and figure out what I want and who I am. I’m not judging those who do it, so I don’t understand why those who do judge those in relationships.
If I’m happy with my choices and who I’m with, I don’t see why anybody feels the need to try and convince me otherwise. I am content with my life and I certainly don’t think that my college experience would be any different if I were single.
To the high school seniors who are anxious to leave their significant other and become long distance, I can tell you from personal experience it is not as bad as you think it's going to be. If you actually care for one another and your relationship isn’t primarily based on a physical attraction/aspect, you will be fine. As long as there is trust, loyalty, and communication there is no reason you can’t continue to pursue a relationship. If it's not what you want, you don’t have to, but if you’re listening to what other people are telling you, especially those who haven’t even been to college, you will be very unhappy.
I am in a healthy relationship where we both can go out and meet people and have a good time out with friends without having to worry about what the other person is doing. We are both taking classes and learning many new things in many different aspects of life as well as about ourselves as individuals. There is nothing he is holding me back from, and there’s nothing I’m holding him back from.
Don’t just assume because I’m in a relationship that I’m miserable and all I want to do is get drunk and hook up with random frat boys. Don’t just assume because I’m in a relationship, I can’t go out and have a good time with friends. College is what you make of it no matter what you like to do, and the right relationship will not hold you back from experiencing anything.
