There exists a great divide between Black Women and Black men

And, yes, while there exists a great divide, disrespect and a stripping of voice and rights towards all women, in different areas and ways, I can most accurately describe the troubles I can clearly see by being a Black Woman and sexism affects each woman differently, depending on what race you are.

All problems are intersectional and depend on a conglomeration of social constructs.

So, let’s talk about it.

1. Black men have no problems throwing us under the bus
2. Black men expect us to put up with their shit.

I see this blasé attitude towards women in music ALL the time. And WAIT, before you say, ‘it’s just music’, you have to understand that

• Media promotes, influences and mirrors specific attitudes in society.

Hell, if Red Lobster saw a dramatic increase of people going to their restaurants just by Beyoncé mentioning them in her song, then what do you think this mass message depicting girls, specifically black girls and women a “thots” “b*tchs” “hoes” or “money hungry”, “ugly” and the like.

This mess of a music also promotes colorism (it exists guys). i.e. Kodak Black’s crusty ass. Therein you cause a fetish. You are praising a black woman for having white features/ or being “passable.

Then, if you don’t listen to this music, you have certain Black people who will willingly revoke your “black card”.

From Steve Harvey telling women to “lower your laundry lists of expectations” to my friend telling me that I need to stop being picky, I have heard a multitude of people scolding Black Women to let go standards.

Standards other women in different races are able and expected to keep.

You constantly hear other women declining future partners if they cannot work with them fiscally, or not holding up to a specified expectation they have for their mates.

But, ironically, no one is bashed for being a gold digger like the Black Woman.

Ironically, because statistics show Black Women mainly pursuing higher education more out of any other group.

Ironically, because Black Woman have shown themselves capable, beautiful and breezy rising above and being self starters, all the while taking harsh criticism, hate and harm like a grain of salt.

And IRONICALLY, and also the most reliable to raise their children – mainly singlehandedly- 72% of black mothers raise their children alone.

There are so many components that I could talk about, it makes me bubble with rage and sadness all at once.

This scorn, objectification/hypersexualization, and degradation needs to be stopped.

And we should further this Womanist movement; refuse this abuse from our own men and society at large.

We need to stop offering our backs as stepping stool for unappreciative men who would rather silence us than raise us up.

I plan on talking more about this topic as it’s very dear to me, and delve in it further.

To be continued and Power up electric ladies.