My Body Is Not Your Concern

My Body Is Not Your Concern

I ran two miles today and ate a burger, get over it.

Recently I was told by some meat head that if I just started to workout more, I'd be "WAY more attractive."

Let me just begin by saying, MY BODY IS NOT YOUR CONCERN! Just like your body is not my concern.

Body image with almost anyone can be a touchy subject. Some way or another, people will find flaws in themselves even if you think they look absolutely perfect. We are known for being our own worst enemies when it comes to that. Being a girl that has struggled with body image since middle school it's not the easiest thing to hear comments like this. I can't stand to hear them directed towards other people let alone myself.

You should only be concerned with your body, not someone else's.

If I want to go to the gym, then I will go to the gym. If I want to eat a whole pizza, well...I'm going to eat that whole pizza. My schedule is very time consuming. Between work, school, clubs, and volunteer work, it's rare that I actually get time at home to just relax. Yes, I go to the gym as often as I can and recently I've been able to expand that to sometimes going twice a day.

I am more upset with the fact that people find it completely okay to comment on other peoples gym habits. For all you know, that person you just insulted has been struggling with the last ten pounds for months now. Losing weight and getting in shape is not easy. It takes consistency and time. Yes, I said it. It takes time to get the body you desire and often times you'll still find flaws.

Put yourself in their shoes. How would it feel to hear that "if you just worked out more, I'd probably be more attracted to you." It'd probably be terrible. People spend enough time critiquing themselves, they don't need you to do it for them. I just find it absurd that people still have the audacity to say such things.

Growing up, our parents would often tell us the cliche "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" phrase. Now, while we routinely tell ourselves this later on in life, we also understand it's a huge lie. I have felt physical pain from broken bones and I can without a doubt say, these wounds have healed quicker. The verbal abuse that we face without realizing is what sticks to us the hardest.

I have dated men that told me if I "hit the gym" with them they'd be more attracted. Since when did a relationship become based solely on physical attraction. Don't get me wrong, I am all for couples empowering one another to become the best possible self they can be; however, there is a way to do this without imposing emotional harm on them.

God molded us into the people we are today. He watches over every one of us, including those that find it O.K. to say these sorts of comments. While he probably shakes his head in silence at these moments, he is also encouraging us to ignore such hateful words. He has made us. It would be rude to acknowledge his creations as "less attractive" or "not beautiful."

Just remember, you are beautiful in your own way. If you want to go for a run after reading this, all the more power to you! I will encourage you every step of the way. If you want to go buy tacos with some friends, I find that just as great. Your body is your concern, no one else.

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Fun Fact: Karma Doesn't Exist

And What Goes Around Doesn't Come Around

Fairly recently, in my math history class, I’ve heard a wild tale about Pythagoras, how he had a cult, was essentially Mr. Ancient Worldwide™, and believed in karma (actually some version of it but still).

I zoned out for the rest of the class thinking about it. Not the reincarnation part of it, but the very simple, straight forward idea we hear everyday that good people get good things, and bad people get punished.

I thought about it. I thought about it more and concluded:

That is such bogus.

100% USDA-approved organic nonsense.

Karma does NOT exist.

The afterlife bit, I’m not concerned about very much in this instance. What I’m here to disprove is the utterly goofy idea that somehow, through good or bad actions in life we get something in this physical world.

It is naïve and silly to claim that if I were to steal all profits made at a cancer charity tomorrow, that somehow the universe or God will find a way to reprimand me. Moreover, were I to donate a sum of ten thousand dollars to the same cancer charity tomorrow, I wouldn’t have some kind of extra special credit with God- that’s just not how life works.

More than that- this quasi-meritocratic belief implies that people hit with the most tragic circumstances say someone after living for fifty years with no qualms suddenly gets hit with a divorce and loses all of their life savings, deserve what happens to them.

That’s insulting. That’s idealistic. That’s rubbish.

Any good behavior on my part won’t mean anything in this world. It might mean something to me, it might someone’s life better. But in no way should I think that even a morsel of positivity I put out into the world will come back to me.

What goes around doesn't always come around, and positivity and 'good vibes' isn't a boomerang that the inspirational poster in your college dorm claims to be.

If I am to commit some terrible act, the only reason I’d get punished by anyone is if I get caught, NOT because of some cosmic Batman. After all, look at the many world governments and the wealthy corporations who can essentially commit mass murder and get away with it- there’s no karma, and has been no karma to punish them in the history of the world.

Whatever you believe in, in my case God, isn’t a policeman or the IRS. Not in a sense that people try to paint it/Him as.

Nothing I’ll ever do will ever be held against me or for me. If I can get away with it, I can do virtually anything I please. What comes next, and what it does to my soul and conscience is a completely different story, a story that’s not important today.

Moreover, to think that whenever something fortunate happens to one is because of the "vibes" he or she has put out is a little bit of an ego boost, and nothing else. Being a positive and a good person doesn't change what exists in the world already- only your outlook on it.

That said, stay humble. More importantly than that, stay good. Not because the world is gonna give you anything in return, but because it's the right thing to do.

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5 Bible Verses For When You Feel Unworthy

You may feel broken, but you're still worthy.

Hello beautiful friends,

I have come to you today to touch on a topic that affects us all. Being broken and the feeling of not being worthy.

Have you ever felt broken or unworthy of love? If you answered yes, then please keep reading.

I can imagine you right now, you are sitting in class, your room, or heck maybe even on the toilet reading this and you feel like you are not enough, not loved, and not appreciated.

You wake up every day and maybe you fake a smile, maybe you’re in a relationship that you don’t want to be in, maybe you have no idea what you want to do with your life, why bad things keep happening, why you are here, why you are the way you are, or maybe you just don’t know what God’s plan is for you yet.

You feel like you keep trying and trying and see no results.

This is completely normal, my beautiful friends. It is completely normal to feel like you have no idea what is going, what you’re going to do after graduation, or what the future has.

In college especially it can be so hard to feel loved and appreciated. That’s why it’s so important to love others wholeheartedly.

Today I am here to tell you that what you’re feeling right now is OK because the Lord has a plan for YOU.

The Lord wants to see you succeed and so do I! So start praying, smiling, and believing in yourself!


5 Bible verses to read and reflect on when you are feeling the way you are right now:

1. Psalm 34:18: “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit."

This verse talks about how YOU are broken and lost, but that is when the Lord is there to pick you back up. This is SO important to realize when you feel far away from God and feel alone. The Lord is near to help YOU and listen to you. He cares for you and only wants you to be happy.

2. Psalm 147:3: “He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds."

This verse talks about how when you are broken, the Lord will bind your winds and make it better. The Lord is always there when we stray away and is always ready to take care of us. Has your heart ever been broken? As time went on did you notice it slowly going back together and feeling whole again? That was the Lord working in your heart.

3. Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths."

This verse talks about how to trust in the Lord with your WHOLE self. Isn’t that crazy? Thinking how we can dump all of our worries and sorrows onto the Lord, and He still loves us. Heck, he still pursues us! I know it’s hard to open up and really let God into our hearts and it takes a lot to share our struggles, but He has loved you since before you born and wants you to share what is in your heart with him.

4. Isaiah 43:18: “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old."

All you homies reading this, have you ever made a mistake or done something you regret? If you said no, you are lying. We have all done things that we wish we hadn’t, whether that be not donating that extra $2 to charity, hurting people, or a multitude of reasons. The point of this verse is to emphasise the importance of forgiving yourself for the past and moving on from it. The Lord wants you to admit you have done wrong and then forgive yourself because He has already forgiven you.

5. 1 Peter 4:19: “Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good."

This verse talks about how to fully commit yourself to the Lord. We all mess up and suffer in life, but the Lord wants us to entrust our worries and sorrows to Him, because He will make us feel better. When we suffer, we are getting closer to the Lord and becoming more reliant on Him. It also is saying that when we suffer we see the Lord the most. So the next time you suffer, remember that the Lord is present and there for you.

I hope that this list has helped you see the light and see your worth! You are amazing!:)

Love Your Friend,

Lexi Barry:)

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