Pink and Blue is NOT Very Patriotic.

Pink and Blue is NOT Very Patriotic.

Terms such as “Like a girl”, are used to degrade teens, promote gender roles, and undermine the differences children wish to have in opposition to the norm.

Society has segregated the world between two worlds. Pink and blue sort the world by how it should think and behave. There are certain expectations set by society that dictate how each individual should live based upon their physical gender. Girls dream of getting married and are expected to do so by their late twenties, or early thirties. Boys are not chastised either way by their decision and are assumed to be “driven”, and “busy with work” if personal relationships do not interest them. If these gender roles were not so heavily taught in the lives of small children and teenagers, we could decrease the ever growing problem of hypermasculinity in the male community.

In 1848, the First Women’s Rights Convention in Seneca Falls, NY, several women wrote a list of grievances, most famously known for the desire for the right to vote. One of these grievances was also that women no longer wanted to be limited to the home. Female representation is much lower in math and science fields, as well as the political field, and other elected offices. This discouragement does not just take place upon the application for jobs, or college graduation with degrees, but begins in primary and secondary school levels. Society discourages women to pursue jobs that will make family building inconvenient. However, the opposite occurs for men. Males are not expected to consider this factor as heavily as women are. Men are traditionally the “bread winner”, the one who provides for the family financially, and are expected to be able to do so.

In the wise words of Ruth Bader Ginsburg, in reference to the political representation of women in the Judicial Branch, “People ask me sometimes, when do you think it will be enough? When will there be enough women on the court? And my answer is when there are nine”. People think this notion is overbearing and “feminazi-esque”, but Ruth Bader Ginsberg explains, “No one questioned anything when there were nine men”. Society makes being a woman harder than it is being a man.

Girls are held to a standard of what they’re “supposed” to be in life as far as appearance, occupation, and personal life. But, guys are not exempt from certain standards, either. In fact, on the opposite side of the spectrum, society will find the same symptoms to an equally pressing problem. This problem is called hyper-masculinity. Characteristics that are normally associated with masculinity are coldness, hostility, and complacency in personal feelings. Things that are encouraged to achieve “manhood”, usually marked by puberty and development in age, is what begins the process of perhaps brainwashing boys into thinking they need to fit a certain mold to justify their gender or sexuality.

Terms such as “Like a girl”, are used to degrade teens, promote gender roles, and undermine the differences children wish to have in opposition to the norm. The overuse of these terms, and the gender roles heavily influencing the young male demographic leads to a problem called hypermasculinity, which is when a community or family values men over women, which can lead to domestic violence disputes caused by the aggression men are expected to have. Domestic violence is the second leading cause of female homicide deaths in America. Gender roles are the cause for hypermasculinity, and hypermasculinity is the cause of most domestic violence disputes.

Gender roles are a highly debated topic in American society. Limiting our current society to these standardized molds of how humans should interact with each other is limiting the possibilities to do the unthinkable; to spark innovation and go places the human being has never gone before; for that is what American society is “supposed” to look like. These amazing steps for mankind are all being limited because men value dominance and women value presentation. By breaking down these walls, America is breaking down the obstacles that are preventing us from having a better, more productive and innovative America.

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'As A Woman,' I Don't Need To Fit Your Preconceived Political Assumptions About Women

I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.


It is quite possible to say that the United States has never seen such a time of divisiveness, partisanship, and extreme animosity of those on different sides of the political spectrum. Social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are saturated with posts of political opinions and are matched with comments that express not only disagreement but too often, words of hatred. Many who cannot understand others' political beliefs rarely even respect them.

As a female, Republican, college student, I feel I receive the most confusion from others regarding my political opinions. Whenever I post or write something supporting a conservative or expressing my right-leaning beliefs and I see a comment has been left, I almost always know what words their comment will begin with. Or in conversation, if I make my beliefs known and someone begins to respond, I can practically hear the words before they leave their mouth.

"As a woman…"

This initial phrase is often followed by a question, generally surrounding how I could publicly support a Republican candidate or maintain conservative beliefs. "As a woman, how can you support Donald Trump?" or "As a woman, how can you support pro-life policies?" and, my personal favorite, "As a woman, how did you not want Hillary for president?"

Although I understand their sentiment, I cannot respect it. Yes, being a woman is a part of who I am, but it in no way determines who I am. My sex has not and will not adjudicate my goals, my passions, or my work. It will not influence the way in which I think or the way in which I express those thoughts. Further, your mention of my sex as the primary logic for condemning such expressions will not change my adherence to defending what I share. Nor should it.

To conduct your questioning of my politics by inferring that my sex should influence my ideology is not only offensive, it's sexist.

It disregards my other qualifications and renders them worthless. It disregards my work as a student of political science. It disregards my hours of research dedicated to writing about politics. It disregards my creativity as an author and my knowledge of the subjects I choose to discuss. It disregards the fundamental human right I possess to form my own opinion and my Constitutional right to express that opinion freely with others. And most notably, it disregards that I am an individual. An individual capable of forming my own opinions and being brave enough to share those with the world at the risk of receiving backlash and criticism. All I ask is for respect of that bravery and respect for my qualifications.

Words are powerful. They can be used to inspire, unite, and revolutionize. Yet, they can be abused, and too comfortably are. Opening a dialogue of political debate by confining me to my gender restricts the productivity of that debate from the start. Those simple but potent words overlook my identity and label me as a stereotype destined to fit into a mold. They indicate that in our debate, you cannot look past my sex. That you will not be receptive to what I have to say if it doesn't fit into what I should be saying, "as a woman."

That is the issue with politics today. The media and our politicians, those who are meant to encourage and protect democracy, divide us into these stereotypes. We are too often told that because we are female, because we are young adults, because we are a minority, because we are middle-aged males without college degrees, that we are meant to vote and to feel one way, and any other way is misguided. Before a conversation has begun, we are divided against our will. Too many of us fail to inform ourselves of the issues and construct opinions that are entirely our own, unencumbered by what the mainstream tells us we are meant to believe.

We, as a people, have become limited to these classifications. Are we not more than a demographic?

As a student of political science, seeking to enter a workforce dominated by men, yes, I am a woman, but foremost I am a scholar, I am a leader, and I am autonomous. I refuse to be categorized and I refuse to be defined by others. Yes, I am a woman, but I am so much more.

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Analyzing The Infamous 'U Up?' Text

Men still haven't come up with anything better.


Late at night men gain a confidence that no one can quite explain. The dry spell of Monday through Thursday finally ends as Friday approaches and women's phones start going off with the "u up?" text.

The explanation could be that men are doing this just to use you, but if we dig a little deeper and ask why do men suddenly gain the confidence to text women late at night versus during the week or during the day, then maybe we will have a better understanding of the man behind the "u up?" text.

The term "Saturdays are for the boys" has become wildly popular and men have taken it quite literally until all of their boys have left the bars with their girlfriends or other girls and now he is sitting there alone feeling like the only guy who didn't go home with a girl. You pop into his mind, but it's desperate "u up?" text. He isn't texting you to see you because he misses you or because he wants to get to know you better at three A.M.

Men are nervous and don't want to be rejected so once the weekend rolls around and a little liquid confidence hits their system they may feel compelled to finally reach out to you if they have been nervous to do so all week. The "u up?" text may be the first thing his nervous thumbs can type out before he decides it's a bad idea and doesn't send anything at all. If you don't respond he may instantly regret it in the morning when he realizes he may have blown his chances with you for good.

Ultimately any man that decides to send you a "u up?" text should probably not be your first choice to bring home to mom, but you can't be truly sure of his motives until you analyze the situation. Don't judge a book by its cover or a man by his "u up?" text.

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