The moment those new members run home on Bid Day, there is only one thought going through every member of the sophomore pledge class's heads: who will be my little? We spend so much time trying to meet new members and find the perfect one, but what happens when you get someone you don't even know?
When I got my big, I didn't know much about her at all. I remember ranking her because she seemed like a fun girl who I could get along with. But I'm not going to lie, when she was revealed as my big I was a little worried. I was nervous that I wasn't going to have a good relationship with her. I was nervous that she was going to like my twin so much more than me. I was nervous about the stupidest little things just because at the time we weren't that close. Luckily, when I got my big, I was introduced to the best damn fam that welcomed me in with so much love and now I can't imagine being with anyone else.
That's the thing that some new littles don't understand. Not just your big, but their whole family WANTS YOU TO BE THERE. They wouldn't have just taken you in if they didn't. If you aren't close in the beginning, it isn't the end of the world. You have only been in the sorority for about a month and there's 100 other girls that have been trying to get to know you, too. Here are some tips to make things a little easier for the new littles who feel nervous that they won't end up being close to their big.
Invite her to dinner on campus. More than likely, your new big lives off campus and only eats mac and cheese and chicken nuggets. Not that campus food is that amazing BUT it is a change and the perfect way to to get together and hangout. She will say yes, I promise you that.
Ask her questions. Don't be intimidated by your big. Ever. They are there specifically to help you and make you feel comfortable. Questions about your sorority? Ask your big. Questions about your classes? Ask your big. Questions about the new boy you are crushing on? Ask your big. They have much more knowledge than you think.
Go out with her. Even if she likes the fraternity you have never been to, go. Give it a chance. You'd be surprised how much fun you two will have together dancing on a table to a throwback Fergie song.
Hang out with the whole family. I'm talking your big, grandbig, aunt, twin, cousins. THE WHOLE FAM. There's a reason everyone is in that family, so figure it out. You all have something in common or else you wouldn't have been put together in the first place.
Talk school. Sounds weird, but do it. Find out what your big liked about freshmen year and what she hated. Find out what she wished she had done and what her favorite part of being a freshmen was.
These also apply to the new bigs. Not everyone gets their first choice and it's okay. If you put in the effort to get to know someone, the rest will just come naturally. I didn't know much about my big when I got her, but about a month into our relationship I knew she was the perfect big for me. We do have our ups and downs still but that's life and that happens with every relationship. In the end, I couldn't imagine anyone else being my big. Everything happens for a reason, trust that.
