The act of betraying someone isn't always the figurative action of taking a blade to one's back and doing the act of backstabbing. Instead, it is as little as not following through with what promised. We all have our fair share of back stabbers and then we all have our handful of people that have also betrayed us in some way. We've dealt with the two hands once or twice before; I think we can all agree the pain is similar, but not all the same.
Having been betrayed one too many times, you start to lose hope in that person.
Will they ever change?
Probably unlikely if it has been a record breaking amount of times they have disappointed you and the others around you. No one wants to constantly wait around, but we always do because we love them. We need them. We cannot imagine life without them. By now we all have pictured our own person that has betrayed us in our minds. For some of us it is family, others friends, and even significant others. Either way, we can all relate.
Betrayal vs Backstabbing.
What is the difference? Backstabbing is intentional and the person is attempting to undermine you in some way. Betrayal is almost never meant to occur, however, the person taking part in the action always only thinks about themselves. No one else matters, but them. In the end they will be satisfied so what does anyone else matter? They have no train of thought thinking how it will affect anyone around them.
Eventually there comes a point where we don't even expect anything else from them. We just expect to disappointed now. They always promise to stop, but never following through. They always swear it was just a "slip up and won't happen again." At first we believed them, then came a point in time where their words were just words you could no longer trust.
Why do we keep them around?
All they do now is bring negativity into your life. Things that once made you smile and laugh, now make you over think because it reminds you of them. Quite frankly, everything begins reminding you of them. Why keep them around? We feel guilty if we don't in some situations and in others the betrayal has just become normal and expected. Why has betrayal become new normal. That is not what we deserve and we all know it.
Cut the toxic people out of your life for the bettering and health of you. Do it all for you.
