An open letter to my best friends who went to different colleges,
First of all, how dare you.
How dare you leave me to fend for myself at a foreign place. A place where no one understands my sense of humor like you do. A place where I can’t talk to anyone about my problems for fear of being judged. A place where I can’t cry and be my raw self in front of people just yet because no one knows me like you do.
However, as much as it hurts that I don’t see you every day, college definitely has strengthened our relationship. Long distance relationships have taught me who my true friends are, and that’s you. It taught me that no matter the distance, as long as you put the effort into the relationship, you can make things work out.
We are basically just a long distance couple.
The distance definitely makes me cherish the times we do get to see each other. When break time rolls around, all I can think about is getting to see you, which makes focusing on things like finals and homework assignments difficult. Before we go home, we always talk up a huge game about doing all these crazy and fun adventurous things over break. Rather, we’ll most likely just be back at our houses, eating chocolate and watching videos and talking about dumb things. Just like old times. I took the old times for granted when it was just a fifteen-minute drive to see you. Now it’s an hour and a half drive, or four-hour drive. Heck, even an eight-hour drive. Every one of those hours is worth it.
Even though we stay in touch and talk constantly, I still feel so apart from you nowadays. When we talk, I feel like I can’t relate to the things you talk about, as you do with me. We live different lives now. I feel like I’m missing out on memories with you. I know you care about me and miss me too, but I just fear I’ll one day be forgotten about.
I don’t want our relationship to be built on “the good ole days.” I don’t want every conversation to start out with, “Remember in high school when we …” High school is in the past. Forget high school. I want to focus on the new memories we can make, regardless if I see you every day or not.
I want to thank you. Thank you for accepting me for who I am and accepting my awkwardness, my stupid jokes, my weird habits, and my embarrassing stories. Thank you for giving the best hugs when I need them. Thank you for teaching me to laugh at myself when I mess up. Thank you for giving the best advice you can give, even though we both know us giving each other advice is just like the blind leading the blind. Thank you for sticking with me through the ups and downs because I know I can be a real jerk sometimes.
Before I end this mushy letter to you, I just want to remind you of a few things. Remember that if you ever need me, I am just a call or text away. If need be, I will drive however far I have to as long as it’s to help an amazing friend like you. Remember that even if maybe one day in the future we go on with our lives and grow apart, I will cherish our friendship forever. Remember that the guy who treated you like garbage didn’t deserve you, and you are worth so much more than you realize. Remember that you are an inspirational woman to all, and I am so thankful to have you in my life.
And always, always, ALWAYS remember, you are loved.
Love,
Your best friend who went to a different college as well (how dare me)
