Disclaimer: This isn’t implying that you should shun all of your closest friends out of your life, and instead start becoming a hermit who only attends social gatherings for the food.
Becoming your own best friend is an amazing gift, if you’re able to do so. It means you have an uncontrollable confidence in yourself that doesn’t need to be fed by others. You have confidence in your own character that you’ll make the right decisions, and if you don’t, it’s okay because you learned a lesson on your own.
As much as we like to believe that someone else in this world can truly be our other half, they can’t be. Though, some of us might feel like we haven’t completely found ourselves yet, we are still one whole individual being, and no one other individual can fill that half.
You might ask why. Why is it so important to be your own best friend? Why should we enjoy spending time with ourselves before enjoying time with others?
Well, for starters, without learning to accept, appreciate, and enjoy ourselves, we will never be able to fully reciprocate those feelings toward others. Your mother, father, sister, brother, husband, wife, children, or grandchildren, will never complete you. Though, they might help bring happiness and love into your life, they do not make you whole.
People will always let you down throughout the years. Whether that means sharing your deepest darkest secret with the world, missing an important event in your life, or even passing away and leaving you feeling alone. Things happen, and that’s just life. We can never control who someone else is, we can never dictate what someone else does, and often times can’t prevent a tragedy from striking. This is why it’s so crucial for us to rely on ourselves for that sense of fulfillment, and recognize that we are the only beings that we can fully control and depend on to be present, the way that we want them to be, for our entire lives.
The average life span is 71 years worldwide. For those 71 or so years, there’s one person you’re going to eat every single meal with, watch every single episode of Game of Thrones with, cry after every breakup with, and wake up every single morning with. If that person is not your best friend, then that can be a pretty mediocre, lonely, or even miserable 71 years.
So, check into reality. Find your whole self. Meet that self, and start enjoying every day with that person because they’re guaranteed to be around for a while.
