being a big sister

O' Sister Where Art Thou

Being a big sister can be exhausting.


Don't get me wrong, I love my little sisters, I would die for them. But sometimes, they wear me out.

As the older sister you always feel like you need to be protecting them and watching out for them, and to an extent you do. But when your baby sister turns 18-years-old, she doesn't need your guiding hand anymore. She needs you to be more of a friend and a confidant. Someone she can turn to when her life is completely falling apart, or when she slams her finger in the car door, (it happens). This transition can be hard, especially when you have three other younger sisters, all of different ages who need you to be something different all at the same time.

My youngest sister needs me to be a role model and a teacher. We do homework together, we watch television together, she comes to the grocery store with me. I am the leader of her Girl Scout Troop. I want her to see what hard work does, but when she interrupts my homework it can get really hard to love her. Well, not really, I will always love her, but she definitely gets snapped at when she won't stop talking when I am trying to work.

My sister Abigail, born three years before the youngest, is a special case. She and I do not always get along very well, but we are getting better. She is one of the funniest people I know, and some of the things that come out of her mouth will shock you to the core. I am always left wondering how this little human, she's not very little she's 12-years-old and about five-foot-one, can come up with some of the wittiest, dumbest, and funniest things all at the same time. Abigail is the one that probably wears me out the most, she has a very "I don't have to" attitude, and it drives me up the wall. She needs a lot of guidance, and her manners are a work in progress, but she is getting a lot better. She just needs someone to be her friend, take her places, show her how to put on make-up and kick her butt inline when need be.

Danielle, our dad used to call her his demon child, but she is one of the most caring, sweetest girls you will ever meet. She has an attitude hotter than a firework, and she isn't afraid to chew you out, but she will give you the clothes off her back. Danielle doesn't need much from me. She asks questions when she's confused, she wants to go places with me, and we have been each other's emotional support since our dad died. At fifteen-years-old, you have just enough knowledge to hang yourself, and you think you know everything, so that's what I let Danielle do, because we all have to learn somewhere.

I love my sisters. I love cooking for them, buying them presents, taking them places, holding them when they cry. I even love movie nights and Nerf gun fights in the house. I would not trade being their bigger sister for a single thing in this world...except maybe a little less worrying, maybe not even then.

Eternal Peace.

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An Open Letter To My Favorite High School Senior

You may not know it now, but you're gonna miss this.

Dear high school senior,

I literally can't believe time has flown by so fast. It seems like yesterday your backpack was twice your size and your only worry was what game you were going to play during recess. I am so proud of the person that you are becoming and can't wait to see what the next few years have in store for you. This is likely going to be the best/scariest year of your life all in one. The transition from high school to college is a big deal. The atmosphere of senior year is something that is so special. There is nothing like Friday night football, a bonfire with your closest friends, and messing with your favorite sophomores just because you can. From state champions in football to class favorite and getting the chance to go to your dream college- you have accomplished so much already, and I can't wait to see you accomplish even more as you go to college. But high school isn't over yet, so have fun while it lasts!

Don't rush it, enjoy it.

I know what you're thinking at this point, "I'm basically done with high school. Why won't graduation just hurry up and get here?" Please do not rush it. Enjoy the last days of your high school career because you will never get to go back. Enjoy laughing with your friends at lunch, take it all in as you walk down those halls to your locker, let your mom and dad take as many pictures as they want- you will appreciate them one day.

Be nice to mom and dad.

I know that you're so excited to get out of the house and experience college, but don't forget who helped you get this far in life. Mom and dad will miss you more than you miss them when you're gone, so let them enjoy their time with you while you are still home. Believe it or not, you are going to miss mom's sloppy joes and french dip sandwiches more than you think. Mom already cries every time we break out the baby pictures, so don't make too many jokes about how you can't wait to leave home and have the time of your life. Dad tries to hold it together, but it is hard for any parent to be prepared for their kid to leave them. I promise you will miss them while you're at college, even if you don't think you will.

Don't forget about me while you're having fun in college.

College is going to be fun. You are not going to have very much time to sit around and miss everyone. But don't forget about me completely! I am so excited for you to start doing things on your own and start preparing for the world. I hope you have fun, but I also hope you don't forget that I'm fun too and I am only a phone call away.

You're going to make new friends and part ways with old ones. You have a chance to be whoever you want to be in college, so embrace it! You will learn so much from college, and it will be the most fun/fast years of your life. But don't forget that your high school career isn't over yet. Enjoy the last few times to walk the halls, eat that fantastic high school lunch, and 5th period study halls playing ping pong because you will never get that back. I hope you make the best of it al, and I can't wait to see where the next four years take you!

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My Sister And I May Be 10 Years Apart, But It's The Best Thing Ever

She can hype you up when you need to text that boy but give loving advice about you how stupid you were after you did it.


Many people are unaware that I have siblings. I have always appeared to be an only child as I was — and still am — the only one living at home when, in fact, I have both a brother and a sister, who are many years older than me. I was a come-along child but also the greatest blessing my family has ever received.

I have heard countless stories from my family about how everyone reacted to the news of a new baby. My brother, who is 15 years older than me, was embarrassed and wanted to move out of the house far, far away. But, my sister Michelle, who is 10 years older than me, was ecstatic. She couldn't wait to have a little sister to love and cherish.

Little did either of us know how much of an impact we would have on each other.

Although my sister and I didn't live with each other for that long due to our age difference, our bond is undeniable. The best part about Michelle being a decade older than me is I have a best friend and a second mom all in the same person.

I love my sister so much for so many reasons...

Michelle is always there to support me, love me, make fun of me, guide me, and compliment my hair and outfits. We may argue occasionally, but I can always count on her in the end.

No one else in this world that I would rock out to a concert with, as well as dance and sing to in the most obnoxious way even though she threatens to take videos to show my future husband. No one else I would swap clothes regardless of knowing that I won't get them back for at least six months. No one else I would create crazy food concoctions despite the consequence of my stomach hating me later.

Most importantly, she reminds me of when I am making a stupid decision.

I am so fortunate and thankful to have the most amazing older sister.

Thank you for showing me how delicious coffee is, reassuring me that you can never have too many cats, teaching me to always put confetti in birthday cards, and telling me to never let a stupid boy dull my spark as there is always better out there.

Ten years is quite a distance but, that has never been able to separate our love and bond with one another.

I am so beyond lucky to have a sister like you, Michelle.

I still love you even though people always call me "Michelle," or think that we're twins.

Forever and always,

Your little sis


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