Are you the friend everyone comes to for advice? Because I am. Whether it's "Is this cute or not?" when it comes to posting a picture on Instagram or an outfit all the way to relationship advice, many people come to me. Why? Because I'm one of the most brutally honest people. This can be a tactic for humor most days, but the other days, it's a personality trait that makes your close friends come to specifically you for advice. So many people today lie or barely pay attention to what a friend is saying and just give a flippant opinion because they are too concerned with their own lives. Granted, I'm sure I have done this myself; its human nature to be selfish sometimes.
However, being the brutally honest friend is usually being the compassionate one too. You care so much for your friends and want them to excel in all aspects of life, even for something really insignificant but important in a world of social media such as whether that picture of them and their new significant other is cute or even less significant, a witty Instagram caption. You want to help people as much as possible. Sometimes being this type of friend can suck, mainly when you have no advice to give. You can crack a joke about it, but sometimes nothing comes to mind because you may not have experienced it yourself. You don't have the answers to everything, but you'll die trying to figure it out whether it be asking someone else in hypotheticals and leaving your friend's name out of it, or just googling the advice.
When a friend comes to me about relationship advice, I always give them my honest opinion. One of my best friends calls me the "savage" friend, because I will tell you whether that new guy sucks or not and how to dump him if he does. I will always be the person to call when you're looking for a way out of a horrible date or awkward situation. Being the friend for advice, especially relationships, can be hard when they don't follow that advice. This is really true when that advice is "you should break up with him" because he's been a jerk for the hundredth time by backing out on her for his friends for the millionth time, being verbally abusive, or just not putting in effort that you know your friend deserves.
Being that friend people go to for advice is an incredibly important thing you should take pride in. It means people trust you, and it means they know you look out for their best interest. Even if you're not the go-to person for advice, always listen with an open ear, and always, always give an honest opinion. That means more to people than a lie, that you later tell them the truth because you feel bad for lying (yes, I've done this before and felt terrible about it). It means so much more to people, especially in a world where a majority lie to not hurt someone's feelings. You may hurt their feelings if you don't go about it the right way, but eventually that friend will see you only want what's best for them.
As a person who cares more about others than herself, you always try to be there for your friends when they need you. Your friends mean everything to you, and you always know how much you mean to them, especially being the one they go to for advice. You may be the "savage" friend, but at least you're honest. That's more that can be said for most of the world, so keep being real. That is what's important. So, stay savage, my friends.
