If you are anything like me I am sure you have fantasized over the perfect Valentine's Day at some point because while we may act tough and independent like we, as some pop culture may say, "don't need no man," truly want one.

It is hard to be in college and see relationships cultivating left and right and feeling like you are the only one left out of the game. TRUST ME I get it. Some of my closest friends have great relationships and it is hard to look at them and not want that. In college, in general, it is hard to not want a significant other to go out and meet up with and then attend date parties/events with.

If you are reading this thinking, "Yep this is totally me." Well, guess what? You are not alone and in fact, you are probably in the majority of how all college single ladies feel.

There are also, sadly, times in the year where we feel more single than others making it extremely difficult to be able to be content with just ourselves; Christmas, the summer months of June and July, and then, of course, the dreaded National Singleness Awareness Day that is Valentine's Day.

I wish my luck could be a Nicholas Sparks movie or even the cheesy movie that is Valentine's Day with the multiple different love stories all interconnected somehow, but that is an unrealistic perception of what reality is. And, I think that is what all of us semi-hopeless romantics wish for and we have to stop.

We need to start learning that we also have advantages of being single just like our friends in relationships have advantages over us. We just have them in different ways. We get to have a stress free time going out and not having to worry about if our significant other will get frustrated with us for having "too good of a time."

We also get to meet people all of the time. Think about it. If you were in a relationship right now would you be able to go to different date parties or functions meeting different people all of the time? No, probably not. You would probably be confined to the one fraternity your boyfriend is in, hanging out with the same people all of the time.

If you are also anything like me, you probably love the exhilarating and exciting mystery of the chase. Chasing a boy is a constant challenge and, let's be honest with ourselves, it is an exciting game we get to play.

In relationships, you can often lose that chase and then it becomes a time in your life where you either are in the "honeymoon phase" and cannot get enough of each other or where you realize this was not the type of relationship you wanted and all you liked was that chasing phase. What I am saying is relationships are a lot of work.

But, with the right person the work is worth it; however, if it is just someone that you kind of like sometimes and are dying for a relationship because of its benefits and not because of the actual person themselves, it is not worth it and being single is so much more worth it.

Being independent and strong on your own is something you need to be before you decide to jump into a relationship. Realizing that nothing is wrong with yourself is something you need to know before wanting to jump into a relationship.

Being happy with who you are without the presence of a guy in your life is something you need to do before you want to jump into a relationship. Stop comparing yourself to your friends and their relationships. Instead, embrace something you have that they don't: being single. You get to live life freely and carefree constantly without having to be tied down or attached to the hip with another person.

You get to be you and continually learn more things about yourself that will help mold you into the person you get to be. You get to constantly meet new people and only have to worry about yourself. That is what makes us single ladies so strong. We emotionally depend on ourselves without having to worry about another person being added into the equation. Now, I say all of this, but if you were to meet someone you are head over heels for, go for it.

Being in a relationship is also a great feeling and you get to learn so much about yourself and how you operate while coexisting with another human being.

But, if you are single, embrace it.

Be confident in your singleness and know that you too are at an advantage being independent and on your own. So this Valentine's Day, do not sulk in your room about not having the day to celebrate with someone else.

Instead, go out and celebrate your singleness and have fun being you and doing your own thing!

And who knows, you may end up meeting someone ;)

You never know where the night could take you, I mean — it is Valentine's Day.