It is the Holidays! Time for the great memories being made with family, delicious food, and your family members constantly asking "if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend."

If you are like me, you get tired of the pestering about getting a boyfriend and them asking why you do not have one. News flash Mom and Dad, I cannot tell you why I do not have a boyfriend. It seems like most guys nowadays only want one thing and that is to lead you on. (I am not bashing all guys out there, I am only speaking from experience.) If you meet a wonderful guy and he treats you right, keep him and consider yourself lucky.

For those that need some reconciliation in the relationship department, just remember IT IS IMPORTANT TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE ELSE. Self-love is the most important thing for you. It lets you see deep inside and fix things, it is healthy for your body, your mental health, and your relationships. If you do not feel like it is the right time for you to be in a relationship, then do not push yourself, let that person know it is not the right time for you and see if it is okay that y'all can stay friends or cut your connection with each other off completely.

Don't change yourself for anyone. If your significant other wants you to change something about yourself, don't. You be who you are. A lot of relationships now, seem to be faulty because someone wants the other to change. Changing your hair, your friends, who you talk to is not going to help your relationship. Helping each other grow, supporting each other will make your relationship become healthy. Do not change, grow.

Take time for yourself. Taking time for yourself, especially while in a relationship is very important. You may spend all your time with that person, and you end up letting yourself go. You have to take care of yourself too. Being in a relationship takes time, patience, love, responsibility and can take an emotional toll on you. Make sure you prioritize your time with your lover, friends, family and most importantly yourself.

If you cannot trust each other, then reevaluate your relationship. Before you even think about breaking up with them, talk it out. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, does not matter who it is with. Talking things out and listening to both sides will help you in the long run. Thinking through any situation you are put in, can and will help with working on communication.

Remember: You have to love yourself first before anyone else can love you, Take time for yourself, and communicate. Love one another deeply but no too deep to where you become the other person. Be yourself and others will follow.