I Experience Ageism In The Working World Everyday

I Experience Ageism In The Working World Everyday

Adults tend to treat you differently the younger you are.
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Right now, you are at what is considered a tender age.

You are probably in college, probably have a job and a boatload of responsibility. However, despite being in your late teens-early twenties, most of the adult world still considers you a kid and treats you as such.

This is prevalent in the work field. Older co-workers tend to scrutinize you more or underestimate you because of your age rather than your work ethic.

I speak from experience. I am 19, two months shy of 20, and I work at 7-Eleven. Not the best job in the world, I’ll admit, but it works with my school schedule so I can’t complain.

When I started, I loved my job. It was easy and I was good at it and at the time everyone seemed so nice. Once I got further along in my employment, that all changed.

Being the youngest that works there, I was coined as the “baby” of the place. It has come to a point that instead of my coworkers treating me as their equal, like we are, they try and parent me at work.

This bothers me because one, I have parents already and two, I’m there to do a job, which I do, better than most in fact.

This experience has shown me that the younger generation isn’t treated as fairly as they should be in the workplace. Many older adults tend to question the maturity and intelligence of the “kids” they work with.

It’s almost like they expect us to be immature and fail so they can scrutinize us.

They judge us based on our age before they have even seen our work ethic.

Now, this is not me saying that all adults do this, it happens everywhere, I’m just pointing out things I have noticed at my job as well as a few others.

I know not everyone does this, in fact, my best friend at work is a 47-year-old. He is old enough to be my father, yet he admires my work ethic and gave me a chance despite my age. He has even said that I have better work ethic than half the adults I work with. So, there are definitely good people out there that give you a fair chance.

However, despite having him as a wonderful coworker and friend, there is always one person you will find that will get under your skin.

Unfortunately, I have found that person and she is what sparked this article after a particularly bad night at work. She is constantly ordering me around like she is the boss, which she isn’t and constantly criticizes me to the point that it can be considered an insult.

I get she has kids my age and even older than I, but that doesn’t make her my mother or give her the right to say what she says. I noticed that I am the only one that she is like that with and I highly believe that it has to do with my age.

Another thing that really grinds my gears is that because we are young we are not allowed to hurt or be tired.

Adults always say, ‘You’re too young to be tired’ or ‘You're too young to be complaining of aches and pains.’ I have a couple co-workers who always do this. I get that the younger you are the easier things are, but that doesn’t mean we don’t get tired.

I go to school full-time and work almost full time as well. I don’t go out and party like other college kids and I don’t stay out all hours of the night. I barely have a social life because between work and school and homework there isn’t time for anything else.

My schedule any given day is very busy, so given that, I think I deserve the right to say I’m tired, especially when I have a day where I’m at school from 9:30 to 4 and then work from 5 to 11.

Yes, I’m young, but spending all day on my feet still, makes them hurt. Despite being tired and sore I still show up to work every day and do my best.

This generation has been painted as the “lazy” generation; the generation that takes the easy way out. The generation that does as little work as possible and possibly the most disrespectful generation.

While this may be true for some, it is not true for all. I know many “kids” that have terrific work ethics, that strive to be the best, and take anyway but the easy way out. Just because we are young does not mean we cannot work as well or even better than some of the old timers out there.

And now I’ll leave you with a quote with an unknown source: “Those who criticize our generation forget who raised it.”

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My Problem With The Mom In 'Lady Bird'

Growing up takes time.
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SPOILERS AHEAD, BUT IF YOU HAVEN’T ALREADY SEEN IT WHY ARE YOU READING THIS?

Now reader, you amazing, wonderful reader, I ask you to put aside the intense (and natural) rage that you feel towards me for having put the words “problem” and “Lady Bird” in the same sentence. Now, look me in the eyes as I say this: I LOVE "Lady Bird." We all love "Lady Bird!" It’s a fantastic movie, it captures some aspects of growing up that I didn’t even know I had experienced, it conveys the awe and the horrors we start to feel towards the world as we start to really understand our parts in it.

That scene at the end, when the titular character Lady Bird (now Christine) calls her home to tell her mom about the emotion she felt when she finally drove through her old town; I felt that too. This movie undoubtedly understands youth; what it doesn’t understand is the relationship between parent and child as that youth comes to an end.

If you’ve seen the movie, you’re familiar with the relationship between Lady Bird and her mother. There are moments of pure and utter truth in there. But what bothers me is the fact that despite the terrible things said and done by both Lady Bird and her mom, in the end it is Lady Bird that is left with the weight of reconciling with her mother even though her mom is at fault, and she does it. She calls home. She calls herself Christine again, she cries at church thinking of her home. After her mom hadn’t talked to her for weeks, she just goes and forgives her without a second thought. And why? Because they’re mother and daughter? Is that the message you want to believe in?

I think there’s a lot of affordances being made for the mother, and I don’t appreciate how we’re basically told that even though the mom is passive aggressive, belligerent, and demeaning, we need to excuse that because she doesn’t know how to communicate well and she’s worried about her mistakes. Lady Bird’s mom never directly shows Lady Bird how she loves her, and it’s clear there is some sort of affection between the two, but it’s a love shown through material things like money and clothing, essentials of course, but clearly not what Lady Bird needs.

I’m not saying that I think it’s impossible for Lady Bird and her mother to ever be on good terms again. What I’m saying is, that reconciliation takes time, and a whole lot of effort on both of their parts to see each other differently. It doesn’t come within the first week of leaving for college (when your mom refused to even walk into the airport with you), despite any of our romantic notions about university life I think we can all agree that real change has been a slow and grinding process, full of periods of growth and stagnation, but never quick. Growing up takes time, and I don’t know if "Lady Bird" did that justice.

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Dear Life

I Love You, And I Am So Thankful And Blessed.
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I'm 23 years old. I am in my second semester of my Junior year of college. I started my college journey a little later than most of my friends and peers. This upcoming fall, I'll be headed into my Senior year of undergrad, and hopefully getting a jump start on my first year of grad school. I live at home with my parents and sister and I have two part time jobs. If all goes as planned, I will have my bachelors degree in May of 2019, and my masters degree in May of 2020.

I have wanted to write this article for a long time. This isn't to brag about me or where I am. This is about the journey I am on and how unbelievably happy I am in my life. Right now I'm a busy person and I have a lot on my plate. 18 credits, working 20+ hours a week, writing for odyssey, and trying to manage a social life. I'm a busy lady. Someone asked me one time how I handle being busy all the time, my response was that "I was born busy."

For as long as I can remember I have been busy. I played two sports growing up, went to CCD classes (church related), I was a girl scout, and I have a huge family that hosts functions almost every weekend. Oh, and I went to school five days a week too. When I graduated high school I worked three jobs totaling 80 hours a week sometimes. I can't handle not being busy, this is the only life I've known.

As happy as I am with where I am in my life, it's hard not to feel a little stuck. Your early twenties is such a weird time. You're trying to be an adult but you still feel like you're 17 years old. You're just hoping that everything will sort itself out eventually. I see friends that I grew up with getting married and having kids and I quickly forget that these are the milestones we start to hit at this stage in life.

Let me talk about my friends for a minute. I love to brag about my friends. Graduating college, buying houses, moving out, moving out of state, getting really good jobs. I am so proud. Words truly cannot describe how proud I am. When you grow up with someone and you get to go through life together, it's the best feeling to watch them get everything they deserve. I also think it's so amazing that I can look at each one of my close friends and tell a different story. Not one of us chose the same path. Some of us had really great jobs right out of high school, others went straight to a 4 year university. Some of us went to community college or didn't go to school at all. Some of us have college degrees and others are still working on them. I love having a supportive group of people who understand my path and my busy life. It reminds me that although I feel a little behind, I'm not alone.

I don't know if we'll all ever feel fully complete or satisfied with where we are in life. But I don't think that feeling is necessarily a bad thing. If we never feel truly satisfied then we're always going to be striving for more. I know that I have a lot of living to do, but I am so thankful that I learned to start appreciating the journey.

It is so easy to get down on ourselves for not doing something. Should we have studied harder? Worked harder? Eaten healthier and exercised more? Probably. But we also got to sleep in a little longer, saw a movie with our friends, and go shopping at the mall. I think that learning focusing on the process rather than the end goal has been a life saver for me. I still get stressed, I still procrastinate, and I still get overwhelmed but I'd rather be tired and enjoying life than not.

So this is my letter to life. I love you and I am so thankful and blessed. I am also thankful that I learned how to take time and reflect on where I am. It's so important to remember to breathe when you're going through a rough patch. I think that we often forget that we're human and nothing is ever going to be perfect. We have to stop being to hard on ourselves. The best thing I ever did was learning to stop caring so much about the outcome and enjoy getting there.

I am so proud of myself, my friends, and my family. If you're not incredibly happy with where you are, do what you can to change it. Cut back on the responsibilities that you can, practice a little self love, and remind yourself that it's okay to fail. Reaching a goal or a milestone is a great feeling, but there will always be another goal or milestone that follows. It's a never ending cycle that we need to learn to embrace.

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