Being A Goal Digger

Being A Goal Digger

How to become the best version of yourself.
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In life, everyone strives to be successful. Success has different meanings for everyone, but Merriam Webster defines it as, “The fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect or fame,” or, “a desired outcome." Many people work for most of their lives to be successful in whatever they are doing. Though, in the last few years, the term “goal digger” has been a popular term thrown around by millennials. I define a goal digger as someone who knows what they want and is willing to put the time and work into achieving it.

Oddly enough, goal diggers and gold diggers often get confused, but let me explain. Gold diggers are defined as someone becoming romantically involved with a wealthy individual in order to gain gifts, financial or social status. Gold diggers will always be fighting to get out of someone else’s shadow, while goal diggers will be fighting to be a better version of themselves. It is important to recognize the difference so that you can make a vital connection between success and happiness.

It is important to recognize what makes you happy. For some, it is working hard at their job, for others it could be competing at a certain sport or activity and for others it is just spending time with those they care about. Ultimately, at the end of the day, if you aren't doing something you are passionate about, you will never be successful or happy. If you are always fighting to make it out of someone’s shadow, you will never truly be happy. But if you always strive to be a better you than you were yesterday happiness will follow.

Goal diggers are working towards their goals for themselves -- not for anyone else. In life, you have to do some things just because they make you happy. This is a driving force for creating goals, working towards them and achieving them. If you make a goal because you want to impress someone or for any other superficial reason, you will not achieve that goal. You have to want to do it for you, not because of anyone else. Self motivation is a key ingredient to being a successful goal digger.

Once you have set your goals and are self motivated to complete them, it’s time to get to work! You don’t have to complete your goal in a day, or even a month, but work hard and don’t give up. It will be tough and some days, you won’t want to work at all. This is OK, as long as you don’t give up on it. Rome wasn’t built in a day and you won’t achieve your goals in one either. Continue to be diligent and work at it and you will achieve it.

Now it is time to get moving! Start dreaming. Start working. Start achieving. Do it for you. Become a better you than you were yesterday. Start goal digging.

“Mirror, mirror on the wall, I’ll always get up after I fall. And whether I run, walk, or have to crawl, I’ll set my goal and achieve them all.”
-Chris Butler
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Some days, it seems like girlfriends are constantly asking for more, and while they may be annoying, there are a few simple ways to stop her nagging and win her praise.

1. Pay attention to her.

I promise you, she is dropping hints every day. These may sound like "Awh, look at all the pretty flowers" or "I haven't been to Boba House in so long!"

2. Plan dates. 

Text her while she is at school or work, and tell her to be ready when you get home or by a certain time. Give her an idea of how dressed up she should be, but don't tell her where you're going. Then, take her to her favorite restaurant, one she's mentioned lately, or to a new movie she'd been looking forward to!

3. Pick up small gifts for her.

This doesn't have to be anything expensive, but next time you're at the grocery store pick up her favorite candy, or a small flower bouquet. Just something little that will show her you were thinking of her when you weren't together.

4. Listen to her. 

Ask about her day, and when she tells you what Sarah did at work, ask her the next day or a few days later if things got better. Take interest in her life and remind her occasionally refer back to old topics to prove you do listen.

5. Get her involved in your interests.

It doesn't all have to be about her! Ask her to watch the game with you, or to go out with you to hang with your friends. She wants to be just as involved in your life as she wants you to be involved in hers!

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8 Ways To Break Up With Someone The Right Way

Let's do this like an adult.

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Most of us have been there before, we've been dating someone and while things seemed good, maybe even great, for a while, they just aren't working out anymore.

This usually leads to the dreaded break up.

Breaking up with someone is no easy feat and it can be messy and complicated. If you do it the wrong way, the fall out can be far worse than it need be.

It's so important to be able to break up with someone in a respectful and adult manner, especially if you really do care about whomever it is that you are ending things with.

So, here are 8 rules to abide by when breaking up with someone:

1.  Try and do it in person

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I am sure that you have heard this before, but it is true. You do not want to be that douche that breaks up with someone over text. It honestly makes you look like you can't have the courage to confront them in person.

This rule applies especially if you have been dating for a long time or if you really do care about the person.

There are exceptions, such as if you are long distance, but if it is possible then try your best to do it in person. The reality is, is that this was someone that you used to (or still do) care about so that is the least that you can do for them.

 2. Be honest

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Be totally honest, but make it respectful. Like if you are breaking up with them because you think they are crazy, then don't necessarily tell them that. Say something more along the lines of why it wasn't working and be specific.

Especially be honest if you are leaving them for someone else. Do not lie because when they see that you are with someone else the week after, then that makes you look bad.

Yes, being honest can be hurtful sometimes, but in the end it is better to be honest than to lie and hurt them more down the road when they find out.

3.)   Make sure it is a good time

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Do NOT break up with someone during finals week or if his or her grandparents just passed away.

Just use some goddamn common sense.

You do not want to put even more stress on them and upset them more if they are already going through a tough time.

Unless things are really time sensitive and you can't stand to be with that person any longer then try and wait until things have calmed down a bit in their life.

Nobody wants to be the guy/girl that broke up with someone when their dog died because that's just ruthless, so don't do it!

 4. Don’t stall

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I realize that this is very contradictive to the last point, but this one applies to when there is not anything else really going on and you just are afraid to do it.

If you really think that it needs to be done, then just get it over with so you both can get on with your lives and move on.

 5.  Don’t give them hope 

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If you really do not want to be with them anymore then don't use phrases like "maybe one day in the future" or "just not right now"

Why, you ask?

Because it is leading them on! It is giving them some glimmer of hope that there is a possibility that you guys will get back together again and it isn't right to string them along like that.

 6.  Don’t post about it on social media 

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Don't rant on Twitter about them and post petty quotes on Instagram about how happy you are that things are over.

Be mature and understand that bashing the relationship online is not how you respect the other person.

Even if they start it first, just let it go and move on to happier things.

7. Use “I” statements

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Yah, this might sound really cheesy, but when you use "I" statements, such as saying, "I feel…", then you are not making it sound like you are blaming them.

Instead, it feels more like you are just expressing your emotions.

8. If they cry, help them

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If they are crying, don't just walk away.

No matter how badly you are over the relationship, do not just leave them sitting there crying.

Offer them a shoulder if you feel its acceptable and some tissues.

I'm not saying that you need to act like how you would if you were still dating and they were crying, but you should show them some compassion.

It is best to walk away from the situation when they have calmed down.

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