With such a large amount of marriages ending in divorce in today’s times, there is no surprise that my parents got a divorce. People tend to only hear about the negatives that come from a marriage ending in divorce, but there actually is plenty of good that can come from it too. Did she just say there is good that can come from a divorce? Typically, people only talk about how awful going through a divorce is and how painful it was on the family. However, I can honestly say that there is plenty of good that came from my parents getting a divorce.
My siblings and I got closer.
Throughout the many tears and fights that came along with my parents' divorce, my siblings and I grew together. My brother who always pushed my buttons became my best friend. My sisters, who I fought with day in and day out, didn’t get as mad about the little things. There was this inevitable bond that we all shared because at the same time we were all going through the same heartbreak while trying to keep everyone else happy.
My parents were happier.
No, this was not immediate. There was a lot of fighting and there were plenty of times that I wished my parents would stay together for the sake of my siblings and I. But now, 11 years later, I can honestly say that I’ve never seen my parents happier.
I know what love is.
Hard to believe, right? Everyone says that children of divorced couples don’t know what true love is, but I do. I am fortunate enough to see both of my parents re-married and show what true love is. All I can remember about my parents together is constant fighting. As cliché as that sounds, I can honestly see that my parents were not made for each other and luckily they got it right the second time around.
I got four new best friends out of it.
Who would’ve guessed that I would get four new best friends from my parents getting a divorce? Well, I did. After my mom got re-married, she and my step-dad had two kids that brought me a new perspective on life. They are so young and make coming home from school enjoyable. Getting FaceTime calls to help with my little brother’s math homework or from my little sister to tell me what she’s wearing to pre-K makes my day. When my dad married my step-mom, I got two older siblings who have helped show me the ropes. Whether it be advice in high school or college, they always give me selfless advice on how to move forward in my life.
No, I’m not going to sit here and say that a divorce is all sunshine and rainbows - but, in a weird way, it really makes life easier. Traveling between homes gets old - but if my parents were still together, I bet my life would be a lot more complicated and I wouldn’t have these four new best friends. I would think love was constant fighting, and I wouldn’t see my parents happy like they are. So yeah, I can honestly say that I am glad that my parents got divorced. I’m glad that they got re-married, blended our family and have given me these amazing opportunities.
