Being A Sister Means Wanting More For Them Than I Want For Myself

Being A Sister Means Wanting More For Them Than I Want For Myself

I want them to be two of the greatest women I have ever had the chance to know.

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The other day I was talking about love to someone and how I love differently for people in my life like we all do. There is the love we have for our friends, for our parents, for our significant other, but the love I have for my two sisters is much different. I would do literally anything in this world for the both of them. I guess that is not saying much but there is no one else in my life that I would do anything for.

I think that is in part what it means to be a sister. When I was younger, I hated my biological sister. Mom would agree that I would do anything and everything in this world to get rid of her. I was sitting on her head with a blanket over her in her crib at 3 years old if I was even that old when that took place. And to think, when my dad remarried, why in the hell would I want another sister? If someone told me at 3 or 4 years old that I would be getting another sister, I am sure I would react as if my world had just ended.

But it hasn't, whatsoever. Because of them, my world is so much bigger. I know no matter what happens to me or what I go through, my sisters will always be there. The love and care I have for them is by choice and not circumstantial, it is so unconditional. I have never met two more annoying people that easily fill my heart the way that they do. I even remember picking on my sister growing up but as soon as anyone would say anything about her, it was over for them. Now that we are older, nothing about that has changed. I can say anything I want about them two, but as soon as someone else does, I get so defensive.

Defensive is actually an ongoing feeling you have when you are a sister. You get defensive when their lover hurts them, when a friend betrays them, or even when your parents do something to them that isn't favored. You get defensive when they make a bad grade in school, kind of like the parent blaming the teacher for their poor teaching style. You get defensive when anything in their life goes wrong because you know how wonderful they are, so nothing should go wrong?

Being a sister means wanting the best for them no matter what. Honestly, I want the best for everyone in my life but them two, it's much different. I want them to be two of the greatest women I have ever had the chance to know. I want every single dream of their's to be fulfilled even if they don't know what they are yet. I want them to find a love that loves them the same way that I love them. I want them to find comfort in everything around them the same way they both bring comfort to those around them. I want them to find people and places that bring them so much light and happiness. When the time comes, I want my children to go to them for everything they feel uncomfortable to talk to me about. I don't want to see them struggle with school, with life, or with things like forgiveness and happiness.

Being a sister to me is wanting more for them than I want for myself. When I think about all the great things in my life I never forget to remember them two and the love I have for them.

And since you two will be reading this, I love you both so much. I can be one of the most selfish people I know even when it comes to you two, but the love I have for you guys is different. I hardly ever tell you guys how much you mean to me unless I am drunk or just having a weird meltdown, but this article was long overdue. I would do anything in this world for you both and I am so lucky and so happy to have two people in my life that teach me so much. Because of you two, I have learned what it means to love unconditionally and forgive. I know what it means to be vulnerable, transparent, and to want more for others than for myself. I hope that you two find love in your life that loves you in the same way that I love you.

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11 Reasons Why Your Little Sister Is Your Biggest Blessing

She will forever be your go-to Netflix date, your late-night life talk partner, and your absolute best friend.
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She's the person you care for with all your heart and sometimes hate passionately. She's the one you misbehave with yet the one who often keeps you in check. You've been there since her day one, and she changed your life forever. She is truly your partner in every crime, your shoulder to cry on when life is too much to handle on your own, and the very best friend you never expected to love this much. She's your little sister, and there are many reasons why she is the best thing that ever happened to you.


1. She makes you want to be a better person.

She's your baby sister, and you want her to grow up to be a genuine and well-respected person, which means you must be that person for her to look up to. She gives you a reason to be better.

2. You were her first friend, and that is a difficult bond to break.

From the day she was born, you were who she latched onto. You were her friend before she knew anyone else, and that makes your relationship unbelievably strong.

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3. She matures you.

You find yourself feeling motherly when it comes to your little sister. Your instinct will always be to protect her, often maturing you beyond your years.

4. She will always keep you young.

Although you want to be a grown-up example in her life, she will always be a reminder to have more fun and to let loose. She also has a better sense of style than you ever did at her age, so pay attention.

5. Your life-long friends have known her almost as long as you have, and they love her too.

You may have been her very first friend, but your friends fell in love with her at a young age as well. You know you've got a pretty great little sister when your friends never fail to hug her upon arrival.

6. She supports your decisions.

This does not mean she will always agree with them, but as your sister, she trusts you to do the right thing.

7. And helps you make the ones that stump you.

She may not have as much life experience as you do, but sometimes this can work to your advantage. She hasn't made as many mistakes as you have, and this can mean she's not afraid to take chances and push you to make scary decisions.

8. Distance is no match for you two.

You could go long periods of time without talking and nothing would change. You'll pick up right where you left off every time, although you prefer to stay in touch consistently.

9. You've become really good at giving advice and looking out for people.

Your little sister will come to you for advice, and you become more and more prepared to give it every time. This experience has also helped you help your friends when they need your input.

10. You will always be needed.

We all want to feel like we are a necessity to someone; we want to feel like we are improving someone's quality of life. While you may find this in other relationships over the years, your little sister will always need you, and it will always be rewarding.

11. She's a constant in your ever-changing life.

People will come and go in your life. Relationships will end and friends will fade, but your sister isn't going anywhere.

The day she was brought home, your sister changed your life dramatically. Maybe you were an only child before she came along, and she stole your thunder for a little while, but you'll forgive her for it. You'll realize that she changed your life for the better. She became your truest friend and your biggest blessing.


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8 Signs That You Grew Up With An Older Brother

If you have an older brother, I guarantee after reading this article you will end up copying and pasting this link to him!

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If you ever wished you had a sister, join the club! Sometimes it would be nice to have a bigger wardrobe and more shoes to choose from. Read this article if you have an older brother and soon you will realize how much you learned from your older brother and how much you look up to him. I guarantee all of these signs will apply to you and not only make you appreciate the love and special bond between you and your brother but make you realize how awesome it is to be a little sister!

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1. You were constantly dragged to your older brother's sports games

Whether it was baseball, football, soccer, or lacrosse, you were constantly dragged to all of your brother's tournaments, late night games, and practices. You constantly tried to find other siblings to play with but spent most of the time complaining to your parents that you wanted to go home. At this point, your parents just gave you five dollars to go find the snack stand to shut you up! Hey, don't worry little sister at least you got a good candy bar out of it and know that Eli Manning doesn't play for the Jets!


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2. As you got older, you secretly conspired with your mom to see if he liked a girl

This is my all-time favorite sign! You and your mom would always sneak around and ask your brother what girls he was texting. Your mom would hire you as her own spy to check up on your big brother with just about everything in his life, but especially the girl he liked. When he found out you two were trying to pry information out of him, he would mostly be annoyed with you and the worst part of all, you still never know to this day who his crush was.


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3. Your brother got his clothes laid out for him and you had to fend for yourself

People must always tell you how independent and down to earth you are because most of the time it was your older brother who was getting all of the babying and not you. It's bad enough that sixth-grade boys don't know how to match the color of their clothing and even worse that they need their mom to lay their clothes out for them in the morning before school. As a result, you were left dressing, feeding, and taking care of yourself. Don't worry little sister, at least you're ten times more independent and able to dress yourself. Get a good laugh at that floral Abercrombie skirt and cami tank top outfit you dressed yourself with in middle school!


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4. You secretly crushed on all of his friends

You were probably ALWAYS knocking on your brother's door when his friends were over. That could have ended in two ways: 1) He told you that you were stupid and to get out or 2) him and his friends would put you in a headlock and decide that wrestling with you was hilarious. Either way, you always thought your brother's friends were adorable and would have done anything just to hang out with your brother and all of his friends.



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5. You always told your best friends they were like a sister to you because you never had any

Unless you're a ton boy, you always envied your friends who had older sisters that they shared clothes, makeup, and accessories with. After all, it's not like my brother wanted to hear about all my juicy gossip and nonsense drama from middle school. You always relied on your close friends to give you the sensation of having a real sister. Now that I think about it, maybe I wouldn't have been so laid back and down to earth without always being around my brother because let's be honest, having sisters can be too much estrogen in one house!



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6. You played Grand Theft Auto and Mario Cart

Whether it was Xbox, the PS4, or even the GameCube, your brother's room was always a video game man cave and he only ever let you in his room so he could beat you at Mario Cart or SuperSmash brothers. You only played video games when you were with your brother and enjoyed it because this was one of the many things you could bond over. At least you can add "video gamer" under the skills section in your resume!


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7. You're a good secret keeper and listener

Your brother was always mischievous, whether he kept it a good secret or not, but somehow you always found out about it. However, being the good sis that you are, you never told on him to your parents and all of his secrets were safe with you. Maybe you could relate to me and your brother accidentally (well, this is debatable) threw a binder out the classroom glass window or hit a substitute teacher in the head with a kickball. Either way, your parents never found out about it because of the great little sister that you are!



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8. You have a huge appetite

You always ate when your brother ate and probably even tried to out eat him, even though that always just ended in a stomach ache. Also, you guys would most likely conspire to sneak gushers and fruit rollups into the cart at the grocery store without your mom knowing. If your brother loves cooking, like mine, this big appetite can actually be useful! No matter what, you will always have a huge appetite and you can only thank one person for that: your big bro!



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Overall, even though there were definitely some annoying things when growing up with an older brother, you would never trade him in for the world. You both grew up to become best friends and each other's confidant. And yes, it does take until you both get to college for him to actually want to spend time with you. Well, just wait until he brings his future wife home... you and your mom might want to start going to therapy ahead of time!!!


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