Being a sister means to me

Being A Sister Means Wanting More For Them Than I Want For Myself

I want them to be two of the greatest women I have ever had the chance to know.


The other day I was talking about love to someone and how I love differently for people in my life like we all do. There is the love we have for our friends, for our parents, for our significant other, but the love I have for my two sisters is much different. I would do literally anything in this world for the both of them. I guess that is not saying much but there is no one else in my life that I would do anything for.

I think that is in part what it means to be a sister. When I was younger, I hated my biological sister. Mom would agree that I would do anything and everything in this world to get rid of her. I was sitting on her head with a blanket over her in her crib at 3 years old if I was even that old when that took place. And to think, when my dad remarried, why in the hell would I want another sister? If someone told me at 3 or 4 years old that I would be getting another sister, I am sure I would react as if my world had just ended.

But it hasn't, whatsoever. Because of them, my world is so much bigger. I know no matter what happens to me or what I go through, my sisters will always be there. The love and care I have for them is by choice and not circumstantial, it is so unconditional. I have never met two more annoying people that easily fill my heart the way that they do. I even remember picking on my sister growing up but as soon as anyone would say anything about her, it was over for them. Now that we are older, nothing about that has changed. I can say anything I want about them two, but as soon as someone else does, I get so defensive.

Defensive is actually an ongoing feeling you have when you are a sister. You get defensive when their lover hurts them, when a friend betrays them, or even when your parents do something to them that isn't favored. You get defensive when they make a bad grade in school, kind of like the parent blaming the teacher for their poor teaching style. You get defensive when anything in their life goes wrong because you know how wonderful they are, so nothing should go wrong?

Being a sister means wanting the best for them no matter what. Honestly, I want the best for everyone in my life but them two, it's much different. I want them to be two of the greatest women I have ever had the chance to know. I want every single dream of their's to be fulfilled even if they don't know what they are yet. I want them to find a love that loves them the same way that I love them. I want them to find comfort in everything around them the same way they both bring comfort to those around them. I want them to find people and places that bring them so much light and happiness. When the time comes, I want my children to go to them for everything they feel uncomfortable to talk to me about. I don't want to see them struggle with school, with life, or with things like forgiveness and happiness.

Being a sister to me is wanting more for them than I want for myself. When I think about all the great things in my life I never forget to remember them two and the love I have for them.

And since you two will be reading this, I love you both so much. I can be one of the most selfish people I know even when it comes to you two, but the love I have for you guys is different. I hardly ever tell you guys how much you mean to me unless I am drunk or just having a weird meltdown, but this article was long overdue. I would do anything in this world for you both and I am so lucky and so happy to have two people in my life that teach me so much. Because of you two, I have learned what it means to love unconditionally and forgive. I know what it means to be vulnerable, transparent, and to want more for others than for myself. I hope that you two find love in your life that loves you in the same way that I love you.

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To The Best Friend That Turned Into A Stranger

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters. Then we went to college.


When you hear the world soulmate you think of the person you're destined to spend the rest of your life with.

The person you marry, have kids with, and love unconditionally for the rest of your life. For me, I found my soulmate. Not in a boy, but in a best friend.

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters.

Some even thought my little sister was your twin. We did everything together, and quickly you became apart of my family. I think you spent the last 4 years staying at my house more than your own. Even when I was 10 hours away at college you were still there with my family.

We went through the ups and downs of high school together.

We were there for each other through every heartbreak, trauma, and loss. Even 549 miles away from each other, I knew you would be there anytime I needed you because we always stuck by each others sides.

We even got tattoos together, because we were the type of friends that would never not be in each other's lives. When people saw me, they saw you. If you weren't around, they would ask where you were.

Until everything fell apart, I left college and you went to college.

We didn't see each other as often as we did but we still talked. I could feel you pulling away and I didn't know why. You found a new friend, and i am so happy you did because the last thing I would want, would for you to be alone in college. But you quickly replaced me. You would come home during breaks and spend 1 day with me and the rest with her.

The reasoning why you said you weren't spending time with me was hurtful, and it's not something I'll mention here. But just know it hurts. Asking for you to give me back the key I gave you for my house hurt.

I know you've been through a lot, and even after all the fighting, I reached out to you.

Because I will always care about you and love you like a sister. But you can only try so hard to fight for someone that doesn't want to be in your life anymore.

I hope you find pure happiness, you deserve it. Just know I miss you and I always will. No one prepared me for the pain I would feel when losing my soulmate.

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An Open Letter To Older Brothers, With All The Things Your Younger Brothers Won't Admit

This is what everyone with older brothers won't admit, so I'll do it for us all.


Older Brothers:

As we get older, we definitely begin to grasp at the importance of our relationship with each other. More specifically, the path of substantial growth that develops and unfolds as we get older bewilders us, yet we find ourselves elated with the direction that it is taking. Although we used to unconditionally hate each other, times change substantially the older we become.

We all truthfully appreciate the weight of the growth more than you do, and we'll explain why further in this letter alongside the stages of our relationship.

Ironically, it is very hysterical to think as far back as we can remember to when we were little kids. We definitely caused our parents to be overwhelmed with extraordinary stress, but it did not matter to us. The first stage of our relationship was as innocent and peaceful as could be, at least before the storm arrives later on. We truly appreciate engaging in nothing but fun with you. You were our first tour guide in the world, and your hobbies became ours. We could often be found disappearing into endeavors, on a life or death mission as we saw it.

Simply put, we were in it together, whatever it was.

Even with small and insignificant bickering every once in a while, it never amounted to anything terrible. All we cared about was exploding with our energy and breaking the ornery meter with you. Thank you for embracing this first stage of enjoyment with us. It seemed to pass by incredibly fast, especially with stage two of our relationship on the horizon.

Stage two was a huge love-hate time. It was also by far the most growthful and helpful time for us, even though it certainly did not seem that way. As we entered into our pre-teens and then into middle school, all we cared about was undermining you. For some reason that we really do not know how to explain, we attempted to find an edge.

Stage two of our relationship was filled with fighting that usually ended in us losing. This specifically helped us to learn how to deal with crap. You also had all your high school friends more or less beat us up. You also always expected us to be at our best. As you progressed through high school, we were beginning to learn it all. This is where the love of love-hate came into play. Although we also never explicitly understood or acknowledged it, you inspired us. Being older, you had already experienced a lot and helped us through the worst.

Stage two was definitely a rollercoaster of love-hate (more hate in our minds), but we later learned you were dope.

In the final stage of growth in our relationship, we learned that we had and have a built-in forever best friend relationship. In our late high school years, college, and beyond, we finally realized the impact you had on us. You are honestly probably happier than us that we finally grew up, but we never admit we were and are the perfect duo, two peas in a pod. We grew up together and experienced a lot. So here's to us, even though we will always be better than you.

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