Something that I have always struggled with is knowing what I deserve and how I deserve to be treated. There have been times when something happens to me, and I can honestly say, "OK, maybe I deserve that," yet there are times when when I do not know what I actually deserve.
I used to find myself saying to everything that happened that I was too much for someone, or maybe I was not enough. I used to think that how I was treated changed the way I viewed myself. If I was being ignored or talked down on, I thought that maybe it was because I was not enough for that particular person. If someone was more talkative and interested in talking to me, my confidence was raised. I should not have let such silly things changed my own opinions of myself. I should just be my usual happy self all the time.
THEN...when I was with some of the people I am most close with in my life and we were all having a good time, I realized my worth. Yes, it has come and gone, but just like everything you have to keep reminding yourself of it. I remembered; the people that keep in touch with me because they want to, and the people that I keep in touch with because I want to are the people that will keep me happy.
Here are some tricks for how I learned to know what I deserve:
1. Have you been respectful and true to who you are with this particular person? if not, then say something. If so and you are not being treated for how you deserve, still say something.
2. Know you can stand up for yourself. It does take courage. The outcome will be the better than how you feel now in the long run.
3. If this person truly care, they will work with you to be better. If you are not being treated how you think you deserve to be by someone, and you tell that person, they will want to work with you to be better or they should. If they do not, then you know you are better off, but it is a team effort. Both of you (or who ever is involved) have to meet halfway.
4. No matter what happens, it will be okay! You will get through this. The way your feeling will not last forever.
5. The moment you are true to yourself, it will be like a light at the end of the tunnel. Trust me on this. Knowing what you deserve will allow you to feel happier.
If you know that no matter what you deserve to be treated with respect that you can start to live a happier life. Keep the ones in your life that make you happy; the people that bring you up when you have fallen and those who do not even second guess supporting you. Rid yourself of the people that make you question what you deserve and your worth, My parents always taught me to treat others the way you would like to be treated. If you do, you can become a better you than before.
