Band Members Owe Us Nothing More Than The Music They Make

Band Members Owe Us Nothing More Than The Music They Make

They owe you nothing more than the music they play for you.


That's right. They owe you nothing more than the music they play for you.

I know what you're thinking: "but, their music saved my life."

Trust me, I get that. All Time Low, Waterparks and so many other bands have helped me in times where I felt alone and I felt like I had nobody, and when I met them, I wanted nothing more than to tell them how much they've helped me through those things.

But I didn't.

Often times, myself included, we forget that band members are real people with real feelings, just like us.

They fight with their friends and family, they date, they break up, they go through anxiety, depression, other mental illnesses. For the most part, it's private. You have no idea that they're going through something unless they make it public.

So many of them are so good at putting on a front and acting happy for the cameras or for the fans because they want them to have a good time.

But in private, we have no idea what's going on in their lives.

They can't get too involved in our personal lives because it may affect them negatively. It can put them in bad places mentally and may end up doing harm that wasn't needed.

If you want to tell a band member that they stopped you from self-harming or anything of that sensitive nature, try phrasing it a little differently.

Instead of coming right out and saying it, you could say something along the lines of "you helped me quit some bad habits," which sounds a little better.

Please do not get offended when they seem to "not react" the way they expect them to. Most of the time, they won't tell you they're proud of you, they won't tell you to keep fighting or they won't want to see your scars, mostly because they're real humans, too, and they may not want to see it or know how to react to hearing it.

Remember that they do not owe us meet and greets, photos, interviews, social media interactions or anything extra that they do for us.

The only thing they owe us is the music they put out for us to listen to.

None of these extra perks are required to be in a band. They do these things because they are kind-hearted people.

So please, next time you approach a band member about a sensitive topic, remember that they, too, have feelings and may not know how to react.

Don't blame them if their reaction isn't what you hoped it would be, because they struggle, too.

We don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

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17 'Winnie The Pooh' Quotes To Remember When You're About To Have A Final Exam Panic Attack

"People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day."


Stressed AF about finals?

Let Pooh take the wheel:

1. "You're braver than you believe and stronger and smarter than you think." 

2. "Think it over, think it under." 

3. "Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day." 

4. "People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day." 

5. "It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?"

6.  "Think, think, think." 

7. "The nicest thing about the rain is that it always stops. Eventually." 

8. "Could be worse. Not sure how, but it could be." 

9. "To the uneducated, an A is just three sticks." 

10. "Home is the comfiest place to be." 

11. "So perhaps the best thing to do is to stop writing introductions, and get on with the book." 

12. "I must go forward to where I have never been instead of backwards where I have." 

13. "One of the advantages of being disorganized is that one is always having surprising discoveries." 

14. "Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved." 

15. "It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine." 

16. "Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known."

17. My spelling is Wobbly. It's good spelling but it Wobbles, and the letters get in the wrong places."

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5 Songs to Add to Your Playlist This Month

Spring into finals week (and the summer) by "cleaning up" your playlist


Here are some fun, fresh new tracks to check out as you finish out the rest of the school year and help you get out of your "music comfort zone!"

“Patience” by Tame Impala 

Genre: Electronic/Alternative

Tame Impala FINALLY released new music (!!), and this track is absolutely stunning. With frontrunner Kevin Parker staying on brand with the band's psychedelic, seemingly ethereal style, it sounds like a combination of 70s soft rock and waves of modern-day electronica, with Parker's voice drifting in and out in a kind of otherworldly, mellowed-out manner.

“Harmony Hall” by Vampire Weekend 

Genre: Alternative/Indie Pop

Vampire Weekend is also releasing an album, entitled "Father of the Bride", on May 3rd. From the looks of it, this track relates to the theme of marriage/weddings present in the album's title, and it is a fun, upbeat song that I have been listening to a lot in the morning as I'm getting ready for class! Ezra Koenig's voice is so unique and can cover a broad range, and I highly recommend listening to some of the band's other work as well ("Step" from their 2013 release "Modern Vampires of the City" is one of my all-time favorite songs!).

“Ready to Let Go” by Cage the Elephant 

Genre: Alternative/Alternative Rock

So many great artists are (finally) releasing new albums this year, and Cage the Elephant falls into this category. This track is an absolute banger and doesn't stray much from the band's style in that it includes a lot of loud guitar and dynamic vocals. Like Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant has been around since the early 2000s, and I highly recommend checking out some of their earlier work as well (big fan of their most recent album, actually!)

“Apple Orchard” by Beach House 

Genre: Indie/Electronic

Beach House is one of my favorite bands of all time, as I find a kind of an ethereal, beautiful sadness in the dreamy style of instrumentalist Alex Scally and lucid vocals of singer Victoria Legrand. This track is from their 2006 self-titled debut and is probably one of my favorite songs they've ever released. The lyrics are poetic and perfect for the post-finals enjoyment of spring weather, in that they preach relaxation and restfulness, and the song's electronic rhythms echo the essence of spring as well. If you like this song, then I highly recommend checking out the band's other albums as well (Depression Cherry is one of my favorite albums of all time).

“April Come She Will” by Simon & Garfunkel 

Genre: 60s Pop

No spring playlist is complete without a little Simon & Garfunkel! This song is a classic, its timeless, poetic lyrics capturing the epitome of the coming of spring and all its glory. In fact, I consider the entire album (entitled Sound of Silence) to be perfect for the pleasantness and feelings of renewal/natural revitalization associated with the coming months, so be sure to give it a listen if you haven't heard it before!

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