You're not always going to have a good roommate.

You Aren't Always Going To Be Best Friends With Your First College Roommate

She might have drove me crazy, but I'm still thankful I lived with her.


One year ago, I was getting ready to go off to college. I was buying my bedsheets from Target, looking at Pinterest for ideas about how I wanted to decorate my room, and trying to make the most of my summer. I was more than ready to go off and start this new chapter of my life.

When I found out who my roommates were, I did the typical, "oh let me find them on Instagram." I lived in a suite styled dorm room, so not only did I have one roommate, but I was going to be living with two other girls too. I messaged them to just introduce myself since we were all going to spend the next nine months together.

As the girl who I was going to be living with and I talked, the more I envisioned what the school year was going to be like. My roommate and I had a lot in common from reading to wanting to explore Philadelphia. We were also moving more than three hours away from home and even had similar knee problems. We texted the whole summer, talking about whatever and how excited we were to finally meet each other.

To say we were polar opposites when we actually met in person isn't an understatement. My parents left early when I was moving in since my dad got sick, and I wasn't going to force him to help me especially since they had to still drive back to Pittsburgh. My roommates' parents, on the other hand, stayed the whole time, which wouldn't have been an issue, if they did not keep joking, "oh I guess your parents were ready to get rid of you, huh?"

I tried hanging out with my roommate once they left by grabbing lunch, and it was the most awkward experience of my life. I asked her questions and if she wanted to do something around campus since it was Welcome Week, and I would hardly get more than two answer responses. I was frustrated. Why was the girl who I could easily text so hard to communicate with?

Throughout the school year, little things that she did irritated me. She never cleaned, always had music playing loudly when I tried to study, would be on FaceTime talking at two in the morning, and she was always in my dorm. I knew she couldn't help but the last one, but this girl didn't seem to go to class and always drank.

Sure, there were times when she did not seem like this monster of a person like when I partied too hard or when I simply needed tape. Yet, she would find a way to destroy whatever hope I had of forming a friendship by getting even drunker or talking about President Trump as "Daddy Trump." And yes, I'm not joking either.

Maybe I was a bit too hopefully when I thought we were going to click. I would see my classmates from high school getting close and posting pictures on Instagram, and my friends seemed to also be clicking with their roommates. Why wasn't I?

Now, looking back on it, I am grateful for this not so good roommate experience. It wasn't the worst even though there were times I wanted to rip my hair out like when she broke my trashcan and ripped my pillow. She's part of the reason why I decided to rush a sorority in the spring, so I could make more friends and get out of my dorm more. I also have a unique friendship with my one suitemate since we're not in the same sorority.

Thankfully, from this experience, I'm also going to be living with two girls this upcoming year who I get along really well and are frankly amazing. So, shoutout to my first roommate for leading me to my new, better roommates!

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So, You Want To Be A Nurse?

You're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.


To the college freshman who just decided on nursing,

I know why you want to be a nurse.

Nurses are important. Nursing seems fun and exciting, and you don't think you'll ever be bored. The media glorifies navy blue scrubs and stethoscopes draped around your neck, and you can't go anywhere without hearing about the guaranteed job placement. You passed AP biology and can name every single bone in the human body. Blood, urine, feces, salvia -- you can handle all of it with a straight face. So, you think that's what being a nurse is all about, right? Wrong.

You can search but you won't find the true meaning of becoming a nurse until you are in the depths of nursing school and the only thing getting you through is knowing that in a few months, you'll be able to sign the letters "BSN" after your name...

You can know every nursing intervention, but you won't find the true meaning of nursing until you sit beside an elderly patient and know that nothing in this world can save her, and all there's left for you to do is hold her hand and keep her comfortable until she dies.

You'll hear that one of our biggest jobs is being an advocate for our patients, but you won't understand until one day, in the middle of your routine physical assessment, you find the hidden, multi-colored bruises on the 3-year-old that won't even look you in the eyes. Your heart will drop to your feet and you'll swear that you will not sleep until you know that he is safe.

You'll learn that we love people when they're vulnerable, but you won't learn that until you have to give a bed bath to the middle-aged man who just had a stroke and can't bathe himself. You'll try to hide how awkward you feel because you're young enough to be his child, but as you try to make him feel as comfortable as possible, you'll learn more about dignity at that moment than some people learn in an entire lifetime.

Every class will teach you about empathy, but you won't truly feel empathy until you have to care for your first prisoner in the hospital. The guards surrounding his room will scare the life out of you, and you'll spend your day knowing that he could've raped, murdered, or hurt people. But, you'll walk into that room, put your fears aside, and remind yourself that he is a human being still, and it's your job to care, regardless of what he did.

Each nurse you meet will beam with pride when they tell you that we've won "Most Trusted Profession" for seventeen years in a row, but you won't feel that trustworthy. In fact, you're going to feel like you know nothing sometimes. But when you have to hold the sobbing, single mother who just received a positive breast cancer diagnosis, you'll feel it. Amid her sobs of wondering what she will do with her kids and how she's ever going to pay for treatment, she will look at you like you have all of the answers that she needs, and you'll learn why we've won that award so many times.

You'll read on Facebook about the nurses who forget to eat and pee during their 12-hour shifts and swear that you won't forget about those things. But one day you'll leave the hospital after an entire shift of trying to get your dying patient to eat anything and you'll realize that you haven't had food since 6:30 A.M. and you, too, will be one of those nurses who put everything else above themselves.

Too often we think of nursing as the medicine and the procedures and the IV pumps. We think of the shots and the bedpans and the baths. We think all the lab values and the blood levels that we have to memorize. We think it's all about the organs and the diseases. We think of the hospitals and the weekends and the holidays that we have to miss.

But, you're going to find that nursing isn't really about the medicine or the assessments. Being a nurse is so much more than anything that you can learn in school. Textbooks can't teach you compassion, and no amount of lecture time will teach you what it truly means to be a nurse.

So, you think you want to be a nurse?

Go for it. Study. Cry. Learn everything. Stay up late. Miss out on things. Give it absolutely everything that you have.

Because I promise you that the decision to dedicate your life to saving others is worth every sleepless night, failed test, or bad day that you're going to encounter during these next four years. Just keep holding on.


The nursing student with just one year left.

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12 Things Only People Under 30 Fully Understand

Only young millennials and Gen Z will know


Being a young adult in 2019 is full of a lot of random stuff that our parents and grandparents didn't have. We have more opportunities, different lifestyles, and just really weird stuff we didn't normal.

1. Our obsession with avocados

A super food with a huge place in our hearts.

2. College debt

An actual representation of me giving colleges my money, with no questions asked.

3. Buying jeans with wholes in them.

4. Memes

The hero we needed, but don't deserve

5. Gifs

A sort of sibling to the meme, but powerful in its own right.

6. Spending five dollars on coffee

Not a want, but a need

7. YouTube/Instagram influencers

They make the world go round.

8. Mason jars as cups, decorations basically anything that isn’t for their intended purpose.

So versatile

9. Our love of succulents

Why have kids when you could have ten cute succulents that don't talk back.

10. Renting instead of buying

Besides have like no actual financial stability, we prefer to live less conventional lives than our predecessors.

11. Our imminent downfall as a society

We never grew up in a time of prosperity, and also know the earth may be dying unless we make a significant change to how we treat it. I guess that’s what happens after we treat it like shit.

12. Being non-binary or gender fluid

A new concept where people don't have to conform to gender norms or even acknowledge them.


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