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Garrett Yrigoyen Should Not Get A Free Pass

It's more than just a "double tap."

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On Monday, August 6, viewers watched Bachelorette lead Becca Kufrin finally get the happily ever after that she so deserves. Unfortunately, not everyone, myself included, believes that she chose the right guy.

Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled that Becca has found her one person and that she is happy with her choice. I wish her and Garrett nothing but the best. However, watching Garrett progress further into the season after receiving the coveted First Impression Rose made me increasingly concerned. This concern stems from a series of pictures on Instagram that Garrett "liked".

Shortly before Becca's season started airing, fans of the Bachelor franchise were made aware that one of her contestants had a habit of liking pictures from alt-right, conservative accounts. These pictures included content that mocked members of the LGBTQ+ community, feminists, survivors of the Parkland shooting, immigrants, those who kneel for the National Anthem, and liberals. My first thought was that this contestant wouldn't make it very far, as Becca is very vocal about her feminist and liberal beliefs. When the season began, I quickly realized that political beliefs are not a hot topic on romantic one-on-one dates, and it became clear that Garrett was going to be a front-runner.

Garrett made it to the final two, along with my favorite contestant from this season, Blake. Even without my knowledge of Garrett's Instagram history, I still would have preferred Blake between the two. Blake talked about Becca as a teammate and a partner in crime. Garrett talked about her as someone who would make a good wife and mother, almost referring to her as if she were a piece of property. Blake was compelling and sweet during his alone time with Becca while Garrett mostly spoke of how his previous marriage ending was all his ex-wife's fault. Blake survived a school shooting, while Garrett mocks survivors of the Parkland shooting. You can see the difference, and while I did prefer Blake, it was obvious that Becca and Garrett also had a connection.

Garrett did issue an apology before the season aired, and while it seemed sincere, I have to wonder how sorry he would be if the viewers didn't know about his Instagram history. Part of his apology said, "I never realized the power behind a mindless double tap on Instagram and how it bears so much weight on people's lives. I did not mean harm by any of it."

At the "After The Final Rose" special, I was pleasantly surprised to see Chris Harrison bring the issue up. Garrett apologized again, and Becca noted that the issue was something that they talked about and that it had been a struggle for them, but ultimately, it made them stronger. Garrett said "I'm just trying to grow as a person, be a better person on a daily basis... Because I feel like, when I was liking things, it was going against what she stands for, and it made it really hard on us as a couple. But we got through together, and we're growing, we're progressing, and we're moving forward."

My hope is that Garrett can learn and grow with Becca's help, but my concern is that while we all "like" stupid things on Instagram and Twitter, the content of Garrett's "likes" may be a part of his core values.

Even more disturbing than the pictures that Garrett "liked", are the comments now being left on his personal account. After posting a picture of himself and Becca on the day after the finale, I found comments that encouraged Garrett to "keep his conservative values". I do not believe that there is anything wrong with being conservative, but if someone is saying not to change your conservative views in regard to these posts, what they are really saying is not to change your sexist/racist/anti-LGBTQ+ views. Also disheartening were the comments that attacked and insulted Becca and her beliefs.

While I have been harsh on Garrett, I do appreciate his apology and that both he and Becca handled the situation well when talking about it during After The Final Rose. While everyone is entitled to their right to free speech, it also needs to be understood that there may be consequences to what is said and done. Again, I do wish Becca and Garrett the best and I hope that he will take this opportunity to expand his views and grow as a person.

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I Am A College Student, And I Think Free Tuition Is Unfair To Everyone Who's Already Paid For It

Stop expecting others to pay for you.

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I attend Fordham University, a private university in the Bronx.

I commute to school because I can't afford to take out more loans than I already do.

Granted, I've received scholarships because of my grades, but they don't cover my whole tuition. I am nineteen years old and I have already amassed the debt of a 40-year-old. I work part-time and the money I make covers the bills I have to pay. I come from a middle-class family, but my dad can't afford to pay off my college loans.

I'm not complaining because I want my dad to pay my loans off for me; rather I am complaining because while my dad can't pay my loans off (which, believe me, he wants too), he's about to start paying off someone else's.

During the election, Bernie frequently advocated for free college.

Now, if he knew enough about economics he would know it simply isn't feasible. Luckily for him, he is seeing his plan enacted by Cuomo in NY. Cuomo has just announced that in NY, state public college will be free.

Before we go any further, it's important to understand what 'free' means.

Nothing is free; every single government program is paid for by the taxpayers. If you don't make enough to have to pay taxes, then something like this doesn't bother you. If you live off welfare and don't pay taxes, then something like this doesn't bother you. When someone offers someone something free, it's easy to take it, like it, and advocate for it, simply because you are not the one paying for it.

Cuomo's free college plan will cost $163,000,000 in the first year (Did that take your breath away too?). Now, in order to pay for this, NY state will increase their spending on higher education to cover these costs. Putting two and two together, if the state decides to raise their budget, they need money. If they need money they look to the taxpayers. The taxpayers are now forced to foot the bill for this program.

I think education is extremely important and useful.

However, my feelings on the importance of education does not mean that I think it should be free. Is college expensive? Yes -- but more so for private universities. Public universities like SUNY Cortland cost around $6,470 per year for in-state residents. That is still significantly less than one of my loans for one semester.

I've been told that maybe I shouldn't have picked a private university, but like I said, I believe education is important. I want to take advantage of the education this country offers, and so I am going to choose the best university I could, which is how I ended up at Fordham. I am not knocking public universities, they are fine institutions, they are just not for me.

My problems with this new legislation lie in the following: Nowhere are there any provisions that force the student receiving aid to have a part-time job.

I work part-time, my sister works part-time, and plenty of my friends work part-time. Working and going to school is stressful, but I do it because I need money. I need money to pay my loans off and buy my textbooks, among other things. The reason I need money is because my parents can't afford to pay off my loans and textbooks as well as both of my sisters'. There is absolutely no reason why every student who will be receiving aid is not forced to have a part-time job, whether it be working in the school library or waitressing.

We are setting up these young adults up for failure, allowing them to think someone else will always be there to foot their bills. It's ridiculous. What bothers me the most, though, is that my dad has to pay for this. Not only my dad, but plenty of senior citizens who don't even have kids, among everyone else.

The cost of living is only going up, yet paychecks rarely do the same. Further taxation is not a solution. The point of free college is to help young adults join the workforce and better our economy; however, people my parents' age are also needed to help better our economy. How are they supposed to do so when they can't spend their money because they are too busy paying taxes?

Free college is not free, the same way free healthcare isn't free.

There is only so much more the taxpayers can take. So to all the students about to get free college: get a part-time job, take personal responsibility, and take out a loan — just like the rest of us do. The world isn't going to coddle you much longer, so start acting like an adult.

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Pride? Pride.

Who are we? Why are we proud?

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This past week, I was called a faggot by someone close to me and by note, of all ways. The shock rolled through my body like thunder across barren plains and I was stuck paralyzed in place, frozen, unlike the melting ice caps. My chest suddenly felt tight, my hearing became dim, and my mind went blank except for one all-encompassing and constant word. Finally, after having thawed, my rage bubbled forward like divine retribution and I stood poised and ready to curse the name of the offending person. My tongue lashed the air into a frenzy, and I was angry until I let myself break and weep twice. Later, I began to question not sexualities or words used to express (or disparage) them, but my own embodiment of them.

For members of the queer community, there are several unspoken and vital rules that come into play in many situations, mainly for you to not be assaulted or worse (and it's all too often worse). Make sure your movements are measured and fit within the realm of possible heterosexuality. Keep your music low and let no one hear who you listen to. Avoid every shred of anything stereotypically gay or feminine like the plague. Tell the truth without details when you can and tell half-truths with real details if you must. And above all, learn how to clear your search history. At twenty, I remember my days of teaching my puberty-stricken body the lessons I thought no one else was learning. Over time I learned the more subtle and more important lessons of what exactly gay culture is. Now a man with a head and social media accounts full of gay indicators, I find myself wondering both what it all means and more importantly, does it even matter?

To the question of whether it matters, the answer is naturally yes and no (and no, that's not my answer because I'm a Gemini). The month of June has the pleasure of being the time of year when the LGBT+ community embraces the hateful rhetoric and indulges in one of the deadly sins. Pride. Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera, the figures at the head of the gay liberation movement, fought for something larger than themselves and as with the rest of the LGBT+ community, Pride is more than a parade of muscular white men dancing in their underwear. It's a time of reflection, of mourning, of celebration, of course, and most importantly, of hope. Pride is a time to look back at how far we've come and realize that there is still a far way to go.

This year marks fifty years since the Stonewall Riots and the gay liberation movement launched onto the world stage, thus making the learning and embracing of gay culture that much more important. The waves of queer people that come after the AIDS crisis has been given the task of rebuilding and redefining. The AIDS crisis was more than just that. It was Death itself stalking through the community with the help of Regan doing nothing. It was going out with friends and your circle shrinking faster than you can try or even care to replenish. Where do you go after the apocalypse? The LGBT+ community was a world shut off from access by a touch of death and now on the other side, we must weave in as much life as we can.

But we can't freeze and dwell of this forever. It matters because that's where we came from, but it doesn't matter because that's not where we are anymore. We're in a time of rebirth and spring. The LGBT+ community can forge a new identity where the AIDS crisis is not the defining feature, rather a defining feature to be immortalized, mourned, and moved on from.

And to the question of what does it all mean? Well, it means that I'm gay and that I've learned the central lesson that all queer people should learn in middle school. It's called Pride for a reason. We have to shoulder the weight of it all and still hold our head high and we should. Pride is the LGBT+ community turning lemons into lemon squares and limoncello. The lemon squares are funeral cakes meant to mourn and be a familiar reminder of what passed, but the limoncello is the extravagant and intoxicating celebration of what is to come. This year I choose to combine the two and get drunk off funeral cakes. Something tells me that those who came before would've wanted me to celebrate.

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