What 'Bachelor In Paradise' Couple Jared And Ashley Made Me Realize About Love

What 'Bachelor In Paradise' Couple Jared And Ashley Made Me Realize About Love

Love isn't dead, everyone, and Jared and Ashley are LIVING PROOF.

Everyone, I have a confession...

I am high-key obsessed with everything related to The Bachelor franchise ("The Bachelor," "The Bachelorette," "Bachelor in Paradise," etc.), with "Bachelor in Paradise" being my absolute favorite. If you've been following the show, then you'll know about all the drama and confusion between Ashley I and Jared. Clearly, they had an extremely strong connection, but Jared always seemed to have one foot in and one foot out while messing not only with Ashley's heart but the hearts of all young women in America. Now personally, I have always rooted for them to end up together, but I figured it was long lost because of the three-year timeline in which all of this has occurred.

You may be thinking, "Hey, I think you're too emotionally invested in their relationship..."

Yes, I definitely am. However, let today (5/22/18) mark the day that I realized love isn't dead while also having approximately 80 billion epiphanies about my own love life. Ashley I. and Jared are dating! For my fellow Bachelor fans and curious souls, click here to watch the beautiful 45-minute video of Jared and Ashley explaining the story of their relationship! I cried many times, people. Many times. Essentially, for those of you who may be confused, Jared and Ashley started off as friends and kind of bounced back and forth between being something more or staying friends because they (mainly Jared I think) were scared of losing the friendship if the relationship went awry. And that, I can totally understand and wholeheartedly relate to. I think everyone can on some level. It's a tough thing to do, laying everything vulnerable on the table and giving everything that you have, knowing that you could lose it all and/or get hurt in the process. It's easier for us to hide our emotions rather than bear the humility of rejection, I think.

Honestly, that is exactly what I do. If I like someone, or even think there's a possibility that I am in love with them, I won't drop a single hint or tell anyone about it in the fear of losing that significant person in my life. I'd rather find ways to deal with just my own thoughts, feelings, and emotions rather than mine plus more, I guess. Though the video did make me realize that love will find a way if it is meant to happen, but if anything, don't let it destroy a friendship by bottling everything inside. It isn't going to do anyone any good, and it's going to break you apart.

Let me just paint you a lovely example of this as unfortunately taken from my life's events.

So my two friends and I were just minding our own business, running some errands and having ourselves a right ole bop. As we get to Kroger, I just get this terrible feeling in my gut like something bad is going to happen. Nonetheless, I tried to ignore it, and we headed in. I mean, it's freaking Kroger, so like nothing bad can happen right?


In hindsight, I don't think it really was as bad as it seemed, but like in the actual moment, I was an absolute wreck. As I was saying though, we began making our way through the store, and as we walked by the check out aisles, I saw a certain someone who I may or may not really like. So, of course, I ran and hid in the men's clothing aisle like any normal human would and began having an anxiety attack. All the feels just hit me, I guess, and I wouldn't say it was the greatest feeling in the world. It's just hard, having such significant feelings for someone but being terrified of the consequences that could come with expressing them.

Yet now, after watching the video, I realized that if I just stand in the men's clothing aisle anxious every time I see the guy, I'm just going to watch my life flash before my eyes, and I could lose an amazing person because of it. Right now, I need to simply be there for him and let him know that I care for him and love him, even if it isn't in the way that I wish it could be.

In the end, if two people are meant to be together, love will find a way in due time. All you can do right now, though, is express your love for that person in any way you possibly can because those feelings within you are real, and they deserve to know about them. Besides, I think keeping all of the feelings and emotions to yourself is more detrimental than what their reaction could potentially be. So I guess it's up to each of us to decide between being a bystander in our own lives or making the moves that could change everything.

Honestly, love is so unbelievably beautiful and worth it, you guys. So make the move, because even if it did end in heartbreak, what a privilege it would be to know what it feels like to love, no matter the cost.

Cover Image Credit: Ashley Iaconetti / Instagram

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I'm Begging You, If You're Going To Watch One TV Show, Please Watch 'One Tree Hill'

"What's more important? What we become or how we become it?" I'm not totally sure, but I attribute both to One Tree Hill.


Many people are shaped by something that happened to them. Perhaps they were shaped by their family, or the situation they grew up in. I can attest to many different situations and aspects of my life shaping me into the person I am today, however, I never thought I would say a TV show helped change my life and became part of what made me who I am today.

One Tree Hill, created by Mark Schwan, was a long-running series about two brothers who start out as rivals when the pauper-type brother joins the school's basketball team. Eventually, the brothers hash it out to become friends and this show follows them, and all of their friends, through their town of Tree Hill, North Carolina, while they endure heartbreak, loss, success, real-life problems, and ups & downs of all sorts.

A lot of people in the past have questioned my love for the show, saying my constant viewing and the fact that I have seen the lengthy nine-season show probably more than eleven times through is obsessive, however, I say it is therapeutic. Don't let the length of the series scare you, it is worth every minute.

At the end of season nine, which only has 13 episodes, you'll probably be sobbing that it's over and begging for more. The fact that the creative genius behind the scenes and the cast really created something special that made people want to watch for nine seasons is incredible. 2003-2012 was a magical time where One Tree Hill aired on TV and it was a time many of us wish we could get back.

I'm sure so many people would love to know why us "One Tree Hill" fans are just so connected to the show and the reason being is that the characters are the most relatable characters. They experience real-life events (with TV magic twists of course). One particular episode actually sticks out to me to this day.

Season four episode 13, "Pictures of You." This episode has the students come into class a few weeks shy of graduation when the teacher gives them an assignment: they can go anywhere they want throughout the school and take a picture of their partner (the teacher gave them digital cameras to use) that shows their true self. They had to pick their partners out of a classmate's hat and they all took incredible pictures of each other after a day of self reflection. Some of the pictures were definitely a little risqué for the modern high school, however, it gave us this iconic Brooke Davis moment that reminded us that "what's under the clothes" matters and that we shouldn't label people based on anything:

From this to school shooting awareness, conversations about losing a family member, strained/abusive familial relationships, narcotics and alcohol abuse, and having to grow up faster than a kid should, "One Tree Hill" hits all the marks on a relatable teen show. I fell in love with the show for this. I feel as if everyone should divulge into the greatness "One Tree Hill" has to offer because it is just so important to see the messages the series portrays. The show also has humor, action, romance, and so much more you just cannot ever get enough of. So, I highly recommend "One Tree Hill" as your next binge, rewatch, or just as your go-to, feel-good show.

"One Tree Hill" is no longer running on the CW Network and was taken off of Netflix (petition to put OTH back on Netflix anyone?), but thank goodness Hulu answered our prayers and added the spectacular series to their streaming service. I have to give my best friend, Meaghan, a shoutout for giving me her Hulu password the day "One Tree Hill" was added to Hulu.

So, if you've ever wanted to start "One Tree Hill," this is your sign. Get on Hulu, give it a go, and thank me later when you fall in love with Luke, Nathan, Brooke, Hayley, and Peyton.

And as always, Go Ravens!

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

"Get connected for free, with education connection"


This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.


Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.


Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.



You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.


You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.


The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers


You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.


The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"


The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution


This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi


Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters


You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs


Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.



Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets


Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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