What You Learn While Growing Up With A Baby

The things I have learned now that I have a niece

I've learned a lot about pregnancy and raising a baby now that I have a baby niece.


Whenever I hear people talk about babies and having them it's always something positive. They will usually say things like "Having a baby is such a blessing " and " Giving birth is a beautiful thing." It's not that I don't agree with what they are saying or anything, it's just that I'm still pretty young and immature with that exact mindset so getting married and having a kid is so far down on my to do list. Even my mother tells me that when I get older I'll start to think differently and my view on having kids will change. We'll see about that 10-15 years from now. The reason why I bring the topic of babies up is because I now have a 10 month old niece. Her name is Zuri. Growing up it was just me, my parents, and my older brother in my immediate family. Unlike my older brother, I didn't experience being around a baby for a long period of time. I was also unaware of many things women go through while just pregnant. In grade school I was just taught that a woman carries the baby for 8 months or so and then gives birth during sex-ed. It was not until my sister-in-law got pregnant that I realized that going through pregnancy is not exactly easy.

I have many breaks in college, so I usually spend my days off visiting my brother and sister-in-law in Maryland. Being with my sister-in-law while she was pregnant really opened my eyes. I used to think that after getting pregnant you would get some morning sickness, your belly gets bigger and that's it. However, there's more to it. Women can have back pains, swelling, digestive problems, bathroom issues and more. Now that I think about it I should not have been so shocked after learning about this. Having these symptoms makes sense because there's another living being inside of you! What can I say, I was naive.

The birthing process is a lot to take in. At least it was for me when my sister-in-law told me everything . Let's just say there's a lot of waiting, pushing, and stretching. She told me that it was worth going through all of that once she had Zuri in her arms. Now that Zuri is a fast crawling baby who is able to get her hands into anything within a second, constant supervision is needed. Zuri is now my brother and sister-in-law's first priority. Seeing them drop whatever they are doing to rush to her aid when she starts crying was one of the many things I had to get used to. I have learned so much about taking care of a baby now that I have a niece. I must also admit that it's pretty funny seeing my brother change dirty diapers and get puked on. If I ever do decide to have a family when I'm older, I'll definitely reflect on the experiences I have had and will have with Zuri.

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To The Best Friend That Turned Into A Stranger

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters. Then we went to college.


When you hear the world soulmate you think of the person you're destined to spend the rest of your life with.

The person you marry, have kids with, and love unconditionally for the rest of your life. For me, I found my soulmate. Not in a boy, but in a best friend.

We were the type of friends that were so close people would mistake us for sisters.

Some even thought my little sister was your twin. We did everything together, and quickly you became apart of my family. I think you spent the last 4 years staying at my house more than your own. Even when I was 10 hours away at college you were still there with my family.

We went through the ups and downs of high school together.

We were there for each other through every heartbreak, trauma, and loss. Even 549 miles away from each other, I knew you would be there anytime I needed you because we always stuck by each others sides.

We even got tattoos together, because we were the type of friends that would never not be in each other's lives. When people saw me, they saw you. If you weren't around, they would ask where you were.

Until everything fell apart, I left college and you went to college.

We didn't see each other as often as we did but we still talked. I could feel you pulling away and I didn't know why. You found a new friend, and i am so happy you did because the last thing I would want, would for you to be alone in college. But you quickly replaced me. You would come home during breaks and spend 1 day with me and the rest with her.

The reasoning why you said you weren't spending time with me was hurtful, and it's not something I'll mention here. But just know it hurts. Asking for you to give me back the key I gave you for my house hurt.

I know you've been through a lot, and even after all the fighting, I reached out to you.

Because I will always care about you and love you like a sister. But you can only try so hard to fight for someone that doesn't want to be in your life anymore.

I hope you find pure happiness, you deserve it. Just know I miss you and I always will. No one prepared me for the pain I would feel when losing my soulmate.

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When You Give A Girl A Sister

She is my built-in best friend from the Lord.


She is my answered prayer, but I began as hers, literally. She prayed for me in the bathtub at the age of 7 years old, and she specifically asked God for a baby sister. A majority of our family thought that I was a boy, but the Lord and Rebekah had other plans. From the beginning, we were meant to be together.

She is 7 years older than me, but the average person cannot tell that by the way we act together. We laugh, scream, and talk a little (maybe a lot) too loud. She holds the key to my heart.

Today, we were on the phone and I cried to her. I did not cry tears of sadness, but of pure joy. I cried because we were talking about all of our plans for the weekend and a possible hike on Monday after my first final. It is conversations like those that remind me of where I came from and why I never want to forget my roots.

I grew up in a very close family, and my sister and I are the epitome of close. She knows exactly when to call me or just come over to cheer me up. She is the first person I call when anything happens, whether it is good or bad. She is my true bestie.

We no longer live in the same house as each other, but distance makes these hearts grow fonder. Each time we get to see each other is like the first time, but it always gets better.

We normally don't go a long time without each other, but if I'm being honest, sometimes it feels like FOREVER. We may grow up, move, get married, have nieces and nephews for each other, but we will always be sisters first (this is a reference to a book that she gave me a while back as a Christmas gift about our favorite set of sister).

Rebekah, I love you more than you could ever know. You have gotten married and left the nest, but my love for you as my sister will never leave, but instead, it will always grow. I cannot wait to see you soon (probably tomorrow, actually).

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