My Awful Experience With Rush And Sorority Life Only Made Me Better

My Awful Experience With Rush And Sorority Life Only Made Me Better

Recruitment and sorority life did not work out for me and I am better for it.


I wanted to be in a sorority

I wanted to join a sorority because I wanted to be surrounded by well rounded, goal oriented, and overall good women. I am a strong believer that you get out of something what you put in and I was ready to put my all into a sorority. Turns out this is not was in store for me.

I was so excited to rush

I participated in formal fall recruitment at Auburn University at the start of my freshman year. I spent the entire summer before gathering letters of recommendation for each sorority and had at least two for every sorority. I even had six for some. (These ended up being entirely irrelevant) I am from a small town in south Alabama where all the women were in sororities and I was so ready to be in one! My mom was not in a sorority so I had no idea what to expect. I watched every youtube video out there about rush and read every article that I could find. The topics of these articles and videos ranged from outfit ideas for each day to what to talk about or not to talk about during parties and even on why girls should join a sorority.

Formal fall recruitment, 2017

Before parties even started all of us were told to "trust the system" or "you will end up where you belong" but let me tell you this was far from the truth. On day one and two I started with all eighteen sororities. On day three I was shocked to see that I had only been invited back to four sororities. Then on day four my worst fear happened, I was invited back to one sorority. Everyone is told that the first round of cuts is based only on grades, this is not true because I spoke with a girl who was also only invited back to one who made a thirty-four on her ACT and she was super nice so I do not believe for one second that the first round of cuts are made based off of grades. This week was by far the worst week of my life. I had never questioned myself until I participated in recruitment.

The one sorority (that I got out of)

I was only invited back to one sorority and I knew in my heart that I did not want to be a part of it. I accepted a bid anyway because everyone told me to "trust the system" or "it will all work out". This sorority was new to Auburn. It was incredibly unorganized and members of the sorority and other new members constantly spoke of inappropriate things that I did not want to be associated with. So I got out before initiation.

I had second thoughts

I even thought of participating in recruitment again or signing up for continuous open bidding but after speaking to girls in other sororities I decided against it. One girl that I spoke to said that while she was in a room full of women she still felt entirely alone because of "cliques" that existed in her sorority. She also told me that if I rushed again, I should not mention that I had gotten out of another sorority because the girls would think that I had been kicked out! Others said that they were tired of all of the obligations and the drama that comes with being in a sorority. Also, why would I ever want to put myself through that again?

On the bright side

Sorority life did not work out for me and I am better for it. Recruitment and being a new member of this sorority caused me so much unnecessary stress and I am happy that I do not have to worry about it anymore. I have gotten involved on campus in other ways! I am now the sweetheart for a fraternity and I absolutely love it!

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7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.

We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.

There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

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Going Greek Is More Than What You See On Social Media

What the stereotypes get right and where they go (very) wrong


Greek life has a primarily negative connotation. As a student ambassador, parents always ask on tours about the culture of Greek life on campus and if what they see in the movies is really true. The answer, quite honestly, is not at all. There is a huge disconnect between those involved in the Greek system and those who only view it from the outside. And it is understandable why this gap in understanding exists.

Recruitment videos, Instagram photos, matching t-shirts and nightmarish images of girls piled on top of one another singing: all these things are what Greek life portrays itself as to the general public. These things do happen. Recruitment videos are images of real girls in real sororities, but they are not doing real things. All of these videos and photographs are staged and rehearsed and edited. So while this portrayal of Greek life is not entirely inaccurate, it is far from the whole truth.

Here is what you don't see:

A room full of 50 girls being their most open and vulnerable selves with one another, asking for support. The comfort you can find with people that may not even know you well but love you well.

The feeling of freedom that comes with being surrounding by friends that want to laugh with you at midnight about Twitter memes and then cry with you at 1 a.m. because you are overwhelmed and lost. The feeling that comes with spontaneous dance parties and deep conversations about the important things in life, with waking up to notes of encouragement and coffee on your desk and balloons on your birthday.

The people that push you to try new things and be more involved. The ones who help you find internships and encourage you to put yourself out there, even when you don't feel good enough. The individuals who spend afternoons with you exploring coffee shops and studying, who make you posters on the days of big exams. The friends who are always willing to get food and accompany you to Target, who make time for you regardless of how busy they may be. The strangers who turn into future bridesmaids.

So yes, Greek life can look (and sometimes be) very cheesy and fake. There are days I wear matching t-shirts and sing at the top of my lungs to strangers. There truly are never-ending photoshoots and an abundance of awkward posing. However, my sorority is so, so much more to me than the pictures I post. There are real people behind the (possibly) fake smiles, and they are strong and silly and empowering and honest.

When parents ask what Greek life is like, I tell them it is one of many opportunities for involvement on campus. However, I also tell them that the Greek system is a place where individuals are empowered to pursue their passions. It is a place where service and scholarship are valued, where leadership is encouraged, and where authenticity flourishes. Despite what the pictures and movies may portray, Greek life has provided the foundation for the rest of my college experience. It has given me the confidence to pursue whatever I aspire for.

And that's the truth.


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