There comes a point in life when, sometimes, our dreams must become nothing and we will forever forget these ones and move on. I have had many of these moments, and always it is devastating.

I had a dream that I would marry the man I loved. Now we do not speak. I had a dream that I would become a nurse, and well, I moved on really quick from that one. I dreamed that I would be a super successful singer, and here I am, not a super successful singer and feeling just dandy.

I have this huge issue with comparing my success to the success of others. I am constantly looking at where others are and thinking that I am so far behind them. I have a tendency to get down on myself for being average in every way. I think I am of average height, beauty, and intelligence. An all around average person. I tend to think of myself as working only at half capacity, which is totally unfair. I see my average grade on a paper and then see someone else's A, and I think, "Wow. How annoying it is to feel average. How much I long to be like those A team people. How much I would give anything to get an A because all I get are average B's. I am nothing extraordinary. I am not special or deserving of an A. Give up all hope now."

But then, I look at where I have been just for a moment. Just for a moment I think of all that I have been through, all that I have accomplished, and I realize that I am an A person. I am a wonderfully intelligent, beautiful, different, and unique being in and of myself. I am spectacular. I am worthy of the best, and I am becoming the very best version of myself even if it is taking me some time to do it. I am working so hard and that is what makes me spectacular. The struggle to be extraordinary is the real feat. It is the real battle to be won. It is the real dragon to slay. I am growing into someone that I would have never expected to become. I am being tenacious and that is what sets me apart.

It is, undoubtedly, indubitably what makes me spectacular. As Arthur Schopenhauer would say, "It is the struggle that lets us know we exist." He is exactly. The struggles are what let me know that I am extraordinary.