Atelophobia: The fear of never being good enough

Atelophobia: The fear of never being good enough


Its hard never feeling like you will be good enough for anyone. You spend your time doubting yourself no matter what you do it is not good enough. Even when someone gives you a complement, you find the one thing that you should change or should have done differently.

Friends; You know you shouldn’t do it but you do, you compare yourself to your friends. The way that they look the way that they act and how others treat them. Then you look at yourself and you start to pick out every single thing that is wrong with you. You don’t like the way your hair looks, your nose is to big, and your tummy isn’t flat. All of your friends are so pretty and everyone seems to like them, you can’t even think of any redeeming quality about yourself. Next, thing you know you are questioning your friendships wondering why they would ever want to be friends with someone like you. Also, don’t forget you aren’t smart or talented and you are no good at sports and all of your friends have some special thing that they do while you have nothing that makes you unique.

Your friends love you, and you’ll find out who the true ones are when something bad happens, in your life. Do not and I repeat do not let them go! Stop comparing yourself to them, believe me they don’t care if your hairs a mess, and you haven’t waxed your eyebrows they just want to see you smile and to be happy.

Family; You’re a failure and a disappointment to your family is the first thing you think if you grades are not good or you think about doing something that may cause you not to spend as much time studying. On top of studying though don’t forget to spend time with your family and make sure that they are proud of you.

Your family are your biggest fans, you have your own cheering squad and a group of people to pick you up if you do fail at something. But, believe me they will never leave you and let you go through it alone. Your family loves you for the crazy, unpredictable, and unexplainable person that you are no matter what you do they will always be there for you.

Yourself; You are your own worse nightmare, your biggest critic, and the one person you will never make happy . Even on your best days you are never good enough for yourself. Always looking at your flaws and all of the things you can never do right. Its hard to see anything good sometimes you just see every flaw and mistake you have ever made like its written across your face.

This one is a little harder to think about in a positive way, because you are your own worse nightmare, and you are the one person who knows yourself the best so you see all of your own flaws. But, you also know all of the amazing things about yourself as well. You know your talents, and how smart you are. When you look in the mirror try not to focus on the size of your nose or how your stomach looks in that shirt instead look at your best feature and remind yourself that you are beautiful inside and out.

Everyday you will deal with the issues of thinking you are not good enough for something, but just remember you are the best at being yourself and no one can do that better than you can.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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Celebrating My Mom: Her Beauty and Strength

Here's to the most inspirational woman in my life.


In observance of International Women's Day on March 8th, it is of paramount importance that we take a few moments to consciously recognize the women in our lives. We often call the women we adore by casual names like "Mom", "my sister", or "my girlfriend", and, usually, these nouns are intimate enough to replace their names---but not today. Today is for appreciating you, Melanie Daugherty, my mom---not as my mother, but as a human whom I hold with the highest regards.

It is easy for me to recall the innumerable times you've embraced me (even though I considered myself to be a disappointment), forced me to put my qualms into perspective, or insisted I put my aspirations into action (because "can't is too lazy to try") ; but, the magnitude of your accomplishments shouldn't always be measured by its impact on me, however, if it were to be, let it be the times you've inspired me.

Mom, I have always appreciated you, but I truly began to define you as my idol during my sophomore year of high school. During this time, I began experiencing shame in my identity. I was an athletic girl, but suffered from body dysmorphia, as well as a misunderstood and pessimistic perception of my inner thoughts. I became very introspective and was completely fixated on thoughts of worthlessness and lack of purpose. I assumed chronic fatigue was just a characteristic of being a teenager. In me, you recognized a past version of who you once were. I cried to you and you embraced me in your arms. My deteriorating state of mental health was not your burden, and you refused to let me define myself by diagnoses and prescriptions. Recognizing your success and triumph over anorexia and depression motivated me. I was so proud to be your daughter. Knowing that confidence and appreciation for the world was possible to achieve accelerated me into a period of self-reflection and determination. I wanted to trace your template of self-improvement with my footsteps and create a new image of myself---one that would reignite my childhood "spark".

You're not just my hero for saving me, but for giving me someone to admire. You live your life without limitations. Competing in the 140.6 mile Ironman triathlon is an accomplishment in itself, competing in the Ironman World Championships in Kona, Hawaii is even more incredible, and completing eight of these triathlons is enough for most people to call you "crazy" rather than by your name. Your greatest demonstration of strength however, was not through athletic prowess, but through mental and emotional perseverance.

Losing your best friend to breast cancer was almost inconceivable because no one ever wants to acknowledge it as a possibility. What people also try to forget, is that it is just as possible for their lives to be taken from them. After learning to cope with your best friend's death, you were diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. Watching you grow progressively weaker was enervating in itself. This wasn't a reality I was able to accept as truth, partially because you were my mom, but also because your strength was an aspect of you that I didn't think could ever be taken from you---and I was right.

Although your complexion grew pallid and your body could no longer sustain itself, your mindset remained the same. You would not accept a last breath, and you ensured that every breath you took reiterated that. You demonstrated to me that positivity is the panacea that combats a discouraged mind.

Mom, for you, I am proud. I am grateful to have lost sometimes, because without loss, I wouldn't have been able to realize my strength, and I wouldn't have realized that if you hadn't been my anchor.

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