We all know my sob story (if not check out my article on social bullying here). I was bullied in high school and all that stuff, I decided with it being about a year later, I thought I would text some of them and ask a few questions. Responses are as follows:
At the time in your life, did you consider yourself a bully? Why or Why not?
Person 1: “No at the time I did not think of myself as a bully or what I was doing was bullying but looking back at it now I think of how much of an asshole I was.”
Person 2: “At the time I honestly didn't, I genuinely felt like what I was doing was justifiable, but looking back at it now I definitely was.”
Why did you treat me the way you did?
Person 1: “The crowd I hung with were not nice people and I decided to be a not so nice person just to fit in with them and therefore came about the bullying you.
Person 2: I never meant to treat you the way I did. I honestly feel that if it was anyone else, I would've acted the same way. which is sad to say.”
Did you personally have any regrets at the time for treating me the way you did?
Person 1: “At the time no I didn't have regrets because I didn't think what I was doing was wrong.”
Person 2: “Of course I did! I would realize later in the day or immediately afterwards what I had done, and just felt guilty. I didn't consider myself a bully, I just felt as if I didn't have a filter.”
Now that we are past that point in life do you have anything you apologize for saying or doing?
Person 1: “I can't really apologize for something like that because no matter how many times I say I'm sorry it will never fix or change anything that happened in the past but for my present and future all I can do is just fix the way I treat people.”
Person 2: “I apologize for everything I ever said or did that ever made anyone feel unwanted or uncomfortable in a situation. if I could change the past I would completely.”
A third person was questioned but their response was as follows.
“well of course I'm sorry that happened to you but there is so much stuff you aren’t aware of. And I'm not going to tell you stuff about other kids who talked to you either, even if I am seen as anonymous. What I will tell you though is that you’re seeking an apology for people not liking you because of you yourself. And I don’t wanna sound like a dick or anything, but we’re in college and that was the beginning of senior year, it’s pretty irrelevant now and I basically don’t speak to any of them anymore cause we all headed down different paths. Again, I'm sorry but you need to be told in the most straightforward manner possible so this confusion doesn’t happen. Other people might tell you what was said but I don’t feel comfortable accusing other people of talking shit”
