Sometimes we are having a hard day, and the only thing possible that would make this day better is silence, your bed and maybe a good movie. But, something we often forget is the best way to cope and move on from something is to speak of it out loud; but where does the responsibility of us telling someone how we feel, become a responsibility of the other person?
Is it my job to mention how not okay I am? Or is it the other person's job to feel out how I'm feeling?
Well, to be honest, its teamwork. It's about mentioning you would like to talk about something, to someone you trust wholeheartedly. It's the job of the person to ask the right questions, and more simply starting with Are You Okay?
I've learned from a close and trusted friend that those 3 words make all the difference in someone day. Maybe they are okay and will dismiss the effort, and you'll be chastised for it but watch it balance someone's day and or emotions. Words are our most powerful outlet and resource.
We are taught that words hurt, but words also heal. We are told that "sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt". Well, what about the impact words do have, and what effect physical notions may also do?
I try and measure my vocational competency by detailing the ideals I hold within my own vernacular; how I would like to be talked to, and how I speak to others with that same regard. Ask your best friend, your mom, aunt or neighbor. Be a safe space for someone, regardless of the extent that it takes. Treat every day like it's your last, and treat everyone the way you would like to be treated.
Regardless of who they are, whom they look like, what they represent or whom they believe, worship or love.
Be genuine, be kind and be soft.
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