Recently, due to the change in weather from colder temperatures to New England's version of "hotter" climates, I decided to wear a shirt that didn't necessarily require a bra. In all honesty, I just didn't have one that was suitable for the body piece I really wanted to wear. Long story short, I walked out of my dorm completely comfortable and secure in what I was wearing, for it appealed to my style and I felt amazing in the new outfit I had bought just a few days ago. With a strong sense of certainty and comfort in what I was wearing, I continued my day with ease and satisfaction. Later on though, one of my friends, admittedly male, confronted me about my lack of effort in putting on a bra.... as if I didn't know.
Now, I don't necessarily have any issues with this friend, but I will say that it extremely bothered me that someone actually cared. This is mostly because it was just a reflection of what the rest of society thinks as well: not wearing a bra is gross or it's just borderline unacceptable. Firstly, I tend to do whatever feels best for me, so not wearing a bra, which I often do in hotter weather, is really nothing new. But the fact that people actually have an issue with this is asinine.
The whole truth is that bras are super uncomfortable, yet we (being females) buy hundreds of dollars worth of undergarments just to hold our breasts in place. We tape, lift, and shape our boobs with a bunch of products that eventually ruin the natural shape of what is already there. Additionally, we follow blogs and websites that teach us how to make our boobs perkier, or more sexual, when in reality, none of that really matters. If you do all that, fine, but so with reason. Society has this tendency of influencing what is right and wrong, which is a loss of control over our own bodies. Both males and females suffer such odd expectations and often experience judgement for counteracting status quo. Consequently, individuals in society focus on how to represent what is expected rather than what is best for them. I personally find that appalling because I am a person that absolutely hates judgement on all spectrums.
In conclusion to my little rant, wear a bra or don't, cut your hair differently or in a way that you prefer, but don't succumb to what you think is acceptable in society because that is completely atrocious and reflects poorly on your own sense of self rather than others.
