We have all been there, you're 12 years old thinking you and your best friend will always be the best of friends. Throughout grade school you guys are inseparable, constantly over each others houses not to mention the countless sleepovers ever weekend. Things feel exactly the way they should, or so you think.
High school comes just around the corner and you're ready with your best friend at your side. However once you begin high school sometimes things are different. Your best friend finds a new group of people and new interests. She hasn't ditched you but you just aren't as close as you used to be. Those weekend sleepovers binge watching Big Brother become seeing each other briefly at high school parties or in passing in the hall. You go from talking every day to a few times a week and most times both of you are so busy you barely notice. That is until someone asks you how the other is and you truthfully don't know.
Inevitably people grow apart as they get older, you find new interests, new friends, and mature at different paces, which doesn't mean it doesn't still hurt. There will be days when you may be scrolling through social media and see your old best friend post about how much she loves her "best friend" and you realize it's no longer you. Or maybe something happens and normally the first person you would call would be your best friend and you realize you're dialing a different number. When you finally realize you guys have drifted apart you'll notice the most you've seen each other or talked in a while is simply a wave or saying hey when passing in the halls.This doesn't make either of you bad friends, or your friendship a failure. It simply means that you have changed. That person will still always mean something to you, you don't simply forget the years they were your best friend. You'll hear things that are going on in each others lives and want to say something but you realize you just aren't that close anymore. That's their new best friends job.
It may sting a little bit but that's the truth. But you also will have someone secretly cheering you on hoping you succeed in all of your future endeavors. Regardless of how long you have gone without talking or even if you have no clue what is going on in each others lives you have someone to call and know they'll be there to listen. That is the most important part. You'll have some days where you look back and wish things stayed the same, and when that happens just look at how far you both have come.
Everything happens for a reason and we don't always know why. Don't dislike their new best friend because they are doing what you used to. Also never compare your new best friend to your old one, no one is the same. People are placed in our lives at just the right moment whether you know it or not.
So, yes it sucks to lose your best friend but people change all the time, it's only fitting that sometimes with change there's strain and distance.
