We live among them, walk among them, even live with them. Narcissists can vary from the average "nice guy" to the typical trench coat wearing covert. Narcissists use a technique called gaslighting, a way of trying to manipulate one psychologically by questioning their sanity. Here is a list of things that are typical for narcissists to say when they are gaslighting you.

1. You’re crazy, bipolar, delusional.
2. I know what you’re thinking, I know why you did that.
3. I never said that.
4. I never did that.
5. You’re lying.
6. Here we go again.
7. You’re emotionally unstable.
8. See! You can’t even hold a conversation without getting angry. (after they gave you legitimate case to be upset).
9. I was busy.
10. It’s always something with you.
11. You’re so mean, you’re always accusing me.
12. No wonder (insert name here) has a problem with you.
13. You’re being irrational.
14. You’re always making things up in your head.
15. You’re just like your mother.
16. That’s not my fault.
17. Your feelings aren’t my problem.
18. You need to see someone.
19. It was just a joke, I didn’t mean it.
20. You’re so sensitive.
21. I would never try to change you, I’m just making observations.
22. Why are you so angry?
23. I told you I would. (But he still never does what he promised.)
24. You have a demon inside you.
25. No other guy would have put up with this for this long.
26. You’re paranoid because (insert private detail of life).
27. Poor you.
28. You like being the victim.
29. Everyone on my side sees it differently.
30. If you weren’t so paranoid you would see that I’m really a nice guy.
31. My friends and family have even said (insert belittling or humiliating characteristic here), my friends and family agree that you're crazy.
32. My ex-girlfriend wasn't like you, she was (insert whatever you aren’t).
33. I like girls who dress like this.
34. Why do you always look like you want to kill someone?
35. You’re unapproachable.
36. And you wonder why I’m distant.
37. How’s that working for you?
38. Listen to yourself.
39. You can’t control your emotions.
40. You love being unhappy, don’t you?
41. Why are you so negative?
42. You never listen.
43. Stop worrying about it, that’s in the past.
44. Stop telling people stuff about me.
45. And you wonder why you have no friends.
46. You're always nagging me.
47. Just get over it.
48. Why are you upset?
49. It’s not a big deal.
50. Why are you so insecure?
51. I’ve never had this problem with anyone before.
52. I just want what’s best for you.
53. All I want is for you to be happy.
54. Stop living in the past.
55. You don’t understand me.
56. I can’t get through to you.
57. I can’t deal with you anymore.