What do you look for in someone? Really think about it. What kind of person makes you and happy and makes you want to be with them?

These are tough questions to ask ourselves. Some of us might start with the physical stuff, others might say a great personality, a great attitude. But think about it—do we know about all these things before we meet someone?

We fall in love with people for who they are. We keep falling in love with our significant other for who they are, but what we forget to fall in love with is the relationship. The relationship itself can bring you so much joy and excitement. You need to fall in love with not only the person but the relationship. Allow yourself to fall in love with both things and you’ll be so happy.

Here are a few things to think about when falling in love with the relationship and your S.O.:

1. Does it make you happy?

Truly happy. The kind of happy you can’t make force yourself to be. The kind of happy that makes you smile when you see their name on your phone. The happy that makes you glow. Happy that makes you feel like your high. Get high off the happy in the relationship.

2. Do you miss him when he’s not around?

Truly miss him. The kind of miss that makes your heart hurt. The missing you have as soon as you leave them. The feeling when you always want to be with that person and no amount of time can satisfy the need to be with them. The moments you miss that person so much you just want to cry. This is the missing you want to experience in a relationship.

3. Is your boyfriend the first person you want to call when you get news?

No matter what type of news. Good. Bad. Ugly. The feeling of needing to talk to your boyfriend when you get your dream job or the feeling of calling him as soon as you hear your grandfather died. In a relationship, your significant other should be your go-to person. You should want to share everything with them first.

4. Does he support you?

The kind of support your mom gives you. The moments when you don’t even believe in yourself, he is there to pick you up and tell you he believes. The type of support to motivate you to do the absolute best you can. The support to let you follow your dreams even if it isn’t the most ideal situation, even if it takes you both hours apart.

5. Do you see a future with him?

The dreaming of getting married to him and having a family together. The dreams of sitting on a front porch swing at age 60 holding hands. The feeling of always wanting to go on an adventure with him by your side. Think about sharing your life with each other, seeing each other sick and being the dr. The future of seeing each other at their bests and their worsts and still being in love with that person.

6. Does he make you feel like home?

When home becomes a person and not a place you know its real. The feeling of being safe and that nothing could hurt you. When you feel that no matter where you are its home. Being in his arms is the best feeling in the world and it truly makes you happy. When home goes from being a place on a map to a very special person, this is when you know the relationship is the best for you. This feeling is something you will know when you feel it. A feeling that you can’t make up and once you feel it will want to feel it every day.

Falling in love with your boyfriend and your relationship is really important. Make sure that your relationship is something that truly makes you a better person. It truly makes you happy. You can see a clear future with that person. Let home go for a place, to a place in someone’s heart.