Are You Emotionally Crazed During Exams For No Reason Whatsoever?

Are You Emotionally Crazed During Exams For No Reason Whatsoever?

Here's the reason.
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It seems like every finals week you always have a major life issue with all the feels about some boy. Not to mention your B.F.F. does, too... and even her dog is having relationship issues. What is the problem life has with not wanting to wait until the stress of finals is over to add another stress of personal life onto our minds?

Truth be told it's not life's fault, but it may subconsciously be our own.

I'm serious.

We may be the ones we should be asking, "Why is this happening right now?" to instead of you asking it to your phone as you're walking to your exam.

Time is of the essence; during finals you may feel crunched on time, this may lead to your partner getting to see you less during the week. This obviously makes them feel less appreciated, even though you are not meaning to essentially shun them. You just can't possibly stay focused on your final paper when they're sitting next to you.

You or your partner may be feeling a little anxious during finals which can cause you to feel anxious about nearly everything. It's contagious. You're anxious about your final in a week, which just puts you in that mindset to be anxious about nearly everything. You become a little paranoid about your relationship naturally even though it's usually your rock.

And once you've finally have finished your studies you need your sleep. Your partner may be excited to finally hang out with you since you've emerged from your cubicle, but you literally feel like you could pass out on the floor. You feel like they don't get it, which in turn makes them frustrated too because they're confused why they can't be the arms you pass the flip out in.

Finals put you all off schedule. Your sleep, your eating, your everything is all off and you are probably a little irritable, even if you aren't consciously recognizing it your partner can definitely pick out little snaps of yours.

I've seen it time and time again. Every May and December couples either make it or break it during finals. If you want to make it through this dark time with your lover, then follow these tips.

Respect their time and space. They're just trying to get through the week and they may have a different strategy of surviving than you do. That's okay. A week from now they wont be a finals zombie and you can return to your working relationship.

If you are studying with them, bring a snack to the study session. Also bring water. Food is always a kind gesture, and even if they aren't hungry they'll appreciate your kind thought.

If you leave earlier than them in the morning, leave a little motivational note. If you don't live with them text them a little thinking of you or good luck text. This is a sweet reminder that you are not... not thinking of them and you are there for support.

Finals are one week of pure craziness to pass the test, but ace your relationship while you're at it.

Cover Image Credit: Jim and Pam from 'The Office'

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

Cover Image Credit: Megan Beavers Photography

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I Am Terrified Of My Future And That's OK

I'm sure most people are but so many of us are good at putting on that face and acting like we have our lives together.


For a long time, I have been struggling with what my future is going to be. For most of my childhood I was always flighty in what I wanted to be and therefore I never spent much time thinking about where I would end up when I grew older.

Now I am a junior at Illinois State University as a Journalism major and quite frankly that scares me. I don't know where I am going to end up. So many of my professors love to tell us how miserable the job is. That you're doing more work than your being paid for and that there are not a lot of opportunities for journalism.

Literally thinking about my future terrifies me. It actually makes my anxiety act up and often times I start to snap at whoever brought up the conversation. I avoid the subject anytime it comes up or just brush it off with a, yeah I totally have a plan. When in reality everything about leaving college makes me want to curl in a ball on my bed under the blankets and never come out.

Slowly I have been getting better as I find a schedule but the unknown is what freaks me out. The reality is I can't control what happens to me all the time. I may get my dream job or I may end up working at the bottom of the corporate ladder for the entirety of my life.

I'm sure most people are but so many of us are good at putting on that face and acting like we have our lives together. The truth is probably everyone is scared to some degree but most of us know we have to act like we have everything together because that's what adults do.

So what I really want to say is that it's OK. You do not have to have your entire life planned out. You do not need this five year or even a one-year plan to be successful. All you really need is your end goal and then taking one step at a time to reach it.

Right now the one thing I need to do is graduate. I don't have to know where I'm working after college, heck I still have another year and a half before I even leave Illinois State. Learning that my future scares me and it's OK that it does is the only thing that I need to do.

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