Friendships are some of life’s most fulfilling blessings. Two people meet and click – and the relationship grows through shared likes and dislikes. Just as in romantic relationship, friendships necessitate gratitude and respect…as well as give and take. Sometimes we get so busy with our own lives that we forget to nurture our friendships. Here are a few important things to remember, if you want to be the best friend possible…
1. Appreciate your friend!
“Hey, I really appreciate and love you.”
Never take your friendship for granted; if you do, it won’t go unnoticed by your friend (or anyone else). Always say thank you, make it a point to return favors, when you see something that reminds you of them – buy it for them! But most importantly, just stop everything once in a while and say the words, “I appreciate you.”
2. Show interest in their life!
“I’m your open book, how’s life going?”
Be a good listener when your friend says something. Don’t listen just for opportunities to jump in and talk about your own life. Actually listen, make eye contact and give insightful advice (if they ask for it).
Ask them about their life. Whether you ask about school or work, or inquire about what they ate for dinner last night, general interest in their life will assure them that you care…and that the friendship isn’t one-sided.
3. Always support them!
“I got your back, always.”
Being there for a friend in times of need is always important. Listening when your friend vents will remind them why they trust you. Also, be your friend’s cheerleader. Help her study for that massive midterm – and then congratulate her when she aces it.
4. Build trust!
“Your secret’s safe with me!”
A friendship without trust isn’t a friendship at all. As a friend, you want to be trustworthy. Never talk about your friends behind their backs, never intentionally hurt their feelings - and if you do it unintentionally, apologize right away. Admit when you’re wrong because it shows strength. Always keep your promises and most importantly always keep secrets safe!
5. Create memories!
“Remember that time we laughed until we cried?”
This might be an obvious point. However, we may become too consumed with needing emotional support or being the emotional support that we forget to venture out and just enjoy life! Fun adventures and funny moments are big reasons that friendships thrive. Too much seriousness in a friendship (and no relaxation) will only tire out both of you. So, make time to simply enjoy and laugh with each other.
Now, pick up the phone, call your friend…and tell her you appreciate her. Go on, do it!
