"It's not just MY OWN problem. So many women are still trapped in this prison, dealing with this poignant pain all by themselves. Even if we can't get rid of this suffocating pain, we should still have some sort of way to breathe. Abortion is pure evil and there's no voice for women. Somebody needs to speak out. It's the kind of pain that needs to be said and addressed."
I read this Huffington Post Korea article, titled "The Excuse of a Murderer." Pro-Life and Pro-Choice. Both sides have their own reasons to believe what they support is the right choice. For the longest amount of time, I was confused about what I really supported. I've always been a pro-choice because I believed women are their own individuals and their own agents who are able to make their own decisions without the society telling us what is right and what is wrong. However, my Christian faith always stopped me from speaking out for Pro-Choice. It was still killing. There was this tiny life growing inside of me, a blessing from God. Who am I to decide I can get rid of this life?
But the writer of this article said, "do you really think that women would have a smile on their face while going to get an abortion if it's legalized? The pain is still there for us to deal with even if it's not legal. Women are humans, too."
This hit me hard. We are trapped in this societal atmosphere that dismisses the pain, both physical and emotional, that women need to go through. We are not some sort of monsters that would happily get an abortion. We are humans with feelings, too. It hurts us. The legalization of abortion and the call for the legalization do not make us any less of a human. Is it wrong of us to want a society that can help us with our burden of unwanted pregnancy?
Our society immediately reduces women who want an abortion to a mere headline. They say it is the woman's fault for not using protection properly. They say we should have known better. They say we brought this upon ourselves.
We might have made a mistake. But does that make us any less of a human? No, that makes us even more human. We make blunders. We are just asking for a little help. Is that really too much to ask for? Is it really an excuse of a selfish murderer?
Before we are women, we are humans. We want to live our lives the way we want just as much as men do. Those who decide to give birth, and those who decide to get an abortion, all of them just made a choice for their own lives. Our society accuses us of not having motherly love. Our society just reduces our options to becoming a great mother who sacrifices and gives unconditional love, when we may just want to be treated as humans, before women, who still live and love. That women want an abortion does not equal to the notion that all these women are monsters who do not have any emotions. Those who decide to get an abortion still have this unimaginable burden and pain they need to deal with. So please, calling us a murderer for our choice? That's BS. Women, as humans, have every right to refuse unwanted pregnancy
