I recently had a conversation with a fellow college classmate, let’s call her “Nariana Schmande”. To say the very least the conversation we had was very interesting and this is sort of how it went..

Nariana Schmande: “Hey, how come you don’t go out that much?”

Me: “What do you mean by go out?”

Nariana Schmande: “Well, I mean I never see you at parties or kickbacks.. Why?”

Me: “That’s not really for me…. Not my type of environment.”

Nariana Schmande: “Yo you’re tripping, your life must be boring.”

Me:

Am I the only one who hates conversations like this? Why do people think the only enjoyable thing on the weekends for college students is partying their lives away? What if partying is not my thing and I really enjoy my “me” time? THESE ARE QUESTIONS THAT MUST BE ANSWERED.

Now let’s not get it twisted, I don’t loathe or hate parties with every fiber in my being. Actually, I really like parties where I can dance and enjoy the music with my friends; however, for the most part, parties are simply not my thing.

If I had to describe my attitude towards partying, I would say listen to the song “Here” by Alessia Cara. Just to give you a few lines..

“Excuse me if I seem a little unimpressed with this

No anti-social pessimist but usually I don't mess with this

And I know you mean only the best and

Your intentions aren't to bother me

But honestly I'd rather be

Somewhere with my people we can kick it and just listen

To some music with the message (like we usually do)”

Personally, parties don’t do anything for me. Anytime I go to a party, I am ready to leave within 10 minutes of being there; the atmosphere is just one I do not feel comfortable in. Personally, I am a chill and laid-back kind of girl. And beyond that, with me taking 18 credits this semester, volunteering 2-3 times a week, and working an internship 20 hours a week, I AM EXHAUSTED by the time the weekend comes.

A chill night getting food with my girls and driving with no destination while singing Tori Kelly and Eryn Allen Kane to the top of our lungs is perfectly fine to me. If we really want to get honest, I am perfectly fine spending the night in my Twin XL on BuzzFeed, watching documentaries and TED Talks with a bowl of strawberries and Nutella. I mean.. To each his own right?

Truthfully, that’s what really irked me about the conversation I had with Nariana Schmande; the judgmental attitude. Because partying is her strong suit and not my forte, I immediately became a boring soul with a boring life in her mind. Girl bye...

I don’t judge or criticize other people when they tell me how much they party. Why should I be judged for my lack of partying? All I’m saying is, no one should ever feel bad or “lame” because they don’t like to turn up every weekend. College is more than how many parties you go to and how “lit” you can get. And beyond that, you don’t know much about my life based on the amount of partying I do or don’t do. At the end of the day, if you want to party then party your little heart away, but if you like to chill, then chill until you can’t chill anymore.