Friendship is a beautiful thing, and it can bring out the best and worst things about people. I usually surround myself with people that make me feel comfortable and welcome, but every once in a while we all run into someone who seems nice at first, and turns into an actual demon friend. I haven't experienced too much of this, but I think a few times is more than enough. So here is a letter to toxic friends everywhere, perhaps you could learn a thing or two about being a good friend.
Dear Toxic Friends,
I know you feel like you're getting by just fine, that this letter isn't about you, etc.,but everyone can learn to be a better friend, so just hear me out.
First of all, I'd like to say that it may feel empowering or whatever, but you're friends should not be terrified of you. I've been friends with people who will laugh about something one minute, and scream at you the next minute for the exact same thing. You're friends are not your puppets, and you do not get to control them and manipulate them with your insane and unhealthy behavior. Friends are supposed to play a positive role in your life, and if you are being nothing but a moody ticking time bomb, you are not a good friend.
On another note, if they're constantly not inviting you places, they might not want to see you. Of course this isn't a perfect example, I accidentally forget to invite people places all of the time,everyone does occasionally. But if your friends aren't inviting you places and are constantly coming up with excuses, you might just not be pleasant to be around. So instead of becoming angry, take a step back and evaluate if the problem is them or you. If you make people uneasy, they won't want to hang out with you, and it may be a warning sign that you need to make a change in your behavior.
Everyone needs and deserves love, friendship, and support in their lives. So please go out in the world and spread as much as you can around. There is nothing fulfilling about pushing the people who want to love and support you away and treating them badly, and you will lose them if you continue.
sincerely,
Maiah
