I know what the stigma is. I know that college is advertised as being a period in your life where you should be out every night, drinking with your friends whenever possible. But I'm here to reassure you that it's okay if this isn't your scene. It's alright if you don't like to party.
College has more to offer other than parties. You have clubs, extracurricular activities, on-campus jobs, off- campus jobs, roommate dates and so many more things available at your fingertips. You don't have to go to every party. In fact, you don't have to go to any if you don't want too.
Sometimes it's discouraging, feeling like you're the odd-ball out because you're not hanging out with your friends on the weekends, drinking or dancing to the newest songs with twenty other people in a crowded dorm room. But I promise you that it's alright. There's nothing wrong with turning in early on a Friday night with a Netflix marathon, pajamas and a bag of popcorn.
Because, ultimately, even if you feel like you're the outsider on campus, you're not. There are plenty of people who would rather go for a walk, or go out for a nice dinner or to a movie on a Saturday instead of going to Around the World. Finding these people can be a bit daunting, especially if you go to a large school. And even if you seemingly can't find a group of people who share the same interests as you, I just ask you to not change your perspective on partying. Please don't go to a party just because you think it'll make you "cool;" Feeling uncomfortable in a crowded room isn't worth it.
However, this doesn't mean that you shouldn't try a party or two if you're interested. Go out and test the waters yourself. But always, always, remember that if it's not for you, then it's not for you. Focus on yourself. Focus on what makes you happy. In the end, whether your happiness is going to Toga with friends or curling up with a new book all weekend, it's alright.
Give yourself credit where it's due. Embrace your differences in opinions, but don't forget to respect others' opinion as well.
