To The Person I Never Got Over

To The Person I Never Got Over

No matter where we are in life, we always find each other.

My Dear,


Why is that after all this time, we can’t seem to move on? For as long as I can remember, we have had a thing, years of flip flopping on feelings and wandering through an endless wheel of disappointment. Not your typical high school puppy love or publicity stunt, but a legitimate connection that seems to be unshakable. You were always someone I found desirable, yet completely…. aggravating. Our minds never seemed to cross the same wavelength and your personality appeared to be the complete antithesis of my own. I could never debunk your thoughts or idiotic actions, as if I was in a constant state of dramatic irony. But I didn’t care. What we have is something that allows these details to fade from thought.

We bullshitted for years, dating the wrong people, looking for something that wasn’t each other. I always lied about how I felt, never completely admitting my feelings, which were everything but platonic. For years, we stayed friends. We fell in love with different people, and eventually, got our hearts shattered. My exes hated you, because they understood, even before I did, that what we had was more raw and real than any relationship I ever had. They saw the threatening force you had on me, knowing that I would drop any other lover for you. But we were always there for each other: to pick the careless shards of my heart off the floor and mend it back together. I guess you just filled in the missing pieces with your own dismembered heart. Finally, we both chased our feelings. We never made it last, but we never got over it; we could never call it quits. Our friendship would never be the same, why not keep trying?

Even now, I see you, and our lives seem so different. You fantasize about a life that would be nothing but appalling to me. My independence and cold heartedness frightens you. No matter where we are though, we always find each other. Whether its six months, two years, or 20 years down the line, we can always pick up right where we left off. Things will never change, but do we want them to?

We will probably never live happily ever after; we will not be the Nicholas Spark archetype, where you run through a crowded airport after me to tell me that you fucked up royally and need me back. No, that’s not how life works, not my life that is. Our lives are not a remake of When Harry Met Sally. We are those lovers, destined by fairytale expectations, to be together, but never for more than a snap of a finger. That doesn’t change that fact how I feel, that the connection we have is something that most people don’t experience once, let alone multiple times. We have a passion that rejuvenates us, that feeds our lustful souls and that perplexes us, as all love does. In the words of Amy Winehouse, love is a losing game, and it’s true. My feelings for you are a ticking time bomb that will eventually scatter my body across this wasteland, until you come around again, and put the pieces back together. That’s the cycle, that’s our story, and I am glad I will feel it forever.

Yours always.

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.

Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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